Standing in the
By Kimberly Chastain
I’m weary of saying
No to my children. Not just the everyday No’s.
Don’t hit your brother and No, you cannot have
5 pieces of candy. I am weary of the No I am continually
saying to our culture. The world is bound and determined
to take away my children’s innocence. They want
my children to grow up way too fast. They want my little
girl to dress like an adult. They want my little boy
to know things he is way too young to know. I’m
weary of saying you can’t go to that movie, because
it is not appropriate for your age. No, you can’t
wear what everyone else is wearing, because it is not
appropriate. The straw that finally broke the camel’s
back was when my son walked in while I was watching
the news. He asked me, “Mommy is it true that
men can marry men and women can marry women?”
“Mom, if two women marry can they have a baby?”
My son is 6. I don’t want to be discussing sexuality
with him much less homosexuality. So, I told him that
no men can’t marry men and women can’t marry
women (for now anyway) and that women with women cannot
have a baby. (Don’t get me started on explaining
how they can). I should not be having these discussions
with my children, but I’m being forced too. What
happened to childhood innocence?
As I was thinking about
my weariness I remembered the song and verse in the
Bible about Standing in the Gap. I also realized that
God cares more for my children than I do. He is there
to guide me and support my weariness. He knows there
is sin in the world. God wants me to rest in him and
seek his guidance in these difficult times. He wants
me to say No and set moral limits based on Biblical
standards that differ widely from the world. He expects
me to raise children who respect God and obey his commands.
The problem with being
weary is it is so easy to give in. I have been there
and I would guess you have to. Oh, okay you can see
that movie or maybe you can wear that shirt. You know
“Everybody else does.” Please hear me clearly
there is a big difference between raising naive children
and innocent children. I just want my children to grow
up in a reasonable time frame. I want them to know what
is appropriate for their age.
So, fellow Mom I ask that
we stand together. That we stand in the gap for our
children. That we constantly seek God’s guidance
and protection for our children. We can grow weary,
but we can’t give up. Our children need us to
show them the way. They need to see living up to God’s
standards is very different than the world’s.
© 2004 Kimberly Chastain
About the Author
Kimberly Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working
Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.
She was recently featured in the book the Myth of the
Perfect Mother. She is the author of “Help, I
Just Can’t Say No” and Pearls of Encouragement
for Christian Working Moms. To schedule a free, initial
coaching session send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org
or visit http://www.christianworkingmom.com.
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