Your Children Growing Up Too Fast?
time our children graduate from one stage to another
(i.e. crawling - walking, preschool - school, highschool
- graduation) we as parents are excited and a little
sad as well. We want our children to grow up, but
we reminisce about the "good old" days.
I think those mixed feelings are normal for all
of us. My question for you is - "Are your
children growing up too fast emotionally and socially?" We
can't stop their physical growth, but we can effect
their emotional and social growth.
Our society is compressing childhood more and more to where children are not
children for very long. We only have 18 years in our entire life to be children.
We struggle as parents to keep our children innocent. Unfortunately, the events
of September 11th stole away even more of our children's innocence.
Children are not little adults. Often, children dress like adults in miniature.
Children want to emulate their teen or adult heroes in dress and talk. As parents
we are fighting a raging river in keeping our children young and innocent.
Society, schools, and parents are pushing children to group up too fast.
the following questions to see if your children
are growing up too fast?
Do your children want to wear clothing that is
designed for much older children?
Do your younger children want to watch TV shows
designed for teenagers? Do your teenagers want
to watch adult TV shows that contain sex and violence?
Are the books your children are reading age appropriate?
Are your children involved in so many extra-curricular
activities they have no down time to just explore
or goof off?
Are your children losing that wonderful "childish" sense
of wonder about the world or do they know it all?
Do your find your children are growing increasingly
inpatient and have to be entertained? Do they often
say I'm bored?
Can you remember the last time you told your child
you are not old enough to know about a certain
topic and we will talk about it when you get older?
When was the last time you told your children, "No,
you can't do that until your older or that outfit
is not acceptable to wear in our family?"
Do you monitor what music your children listen
to, computer games they play, Internet sites they
visit - are they age appropriate?
Do your children hang out with much older kids
who are not a good influence?
these questions have caused you to stop and think
about how quickly your children are growing up.
Due to society's pressures you will have to make
a concerted effort to keep your children innocent.
There will be parent and child peer pressure to
force your children to do things early. You may
not be a popular parent when you say No to something "everyone
else is doing." Parenting is not for the fainthearted
or a popularity contest.
closing, let me relate a recent example. I was
watching a morning news shoe and they were discussing
summer camps for kids. The guest said more and
more kids are looking for computer and science
camps, in order to improve their resumes for college.
I found myself yelling at the TV - "Why can't
you just enjoy camp, instead of it looking good
on a resume. When did camp stop being fun and started
the wise words of King Solomon in Ecclesiastes
3:1 - "There is a time for everything, and
a season for every activity under heaven." Childhood
is a precious time and it is all ready much too
short, keep your children innocent and protect
Chastain is a Professional Life Coach and Licensed
Marriage and Family Therapist. Kimberly is also
the author of the ebook entitled, "Pearls
of Encouragement for Christian Working Moms." She
has a passion for working with Christian Working
Moms to help them find satisfaction in all their
many different roles. To find out more go to www.christianworkingmom.com You
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