Summer is coming soon in the United States. For those of you CWMs
who have school age children what kind of childcare arrangements
do you have in the summer? Come share your answers at our blog:
Can I encourage you to actively look for CWMs around you that you
can support and they can support you as well? Often, CWMs are hidden
even in our own churches.
Prayer Partner Needed
Speaking of supporting one another; I have a CWM who would like
a virtual prayer partner. Virtual prayer partners share one another’s
needs by email and agree to pray for one another. If you are interested
in a prayer partner, please send an email to Kimberly@kimberlychastain.com
and put prayer partner in the subject heading. I will then connect
you with a prayer partner. Thanks in advance for your help.
I appreciate Sarah sharing with us this month. Sarah is a married
29 year old CWM highschool teacher who lives in the United States.
Sarah has a 4 year old son and a 2 year old daughter.
Sarah enjoys the following as a CWM: as a high school teacher,
I have the privilege of educating students about geography and political
situations around the world. It is so encouraging to watch students
as they grow and mature. I love it when a student grasps a new concept
or overcomes an obstacle to succeed at life. As a public school
teacher, I don’t talk about my faith during class. However,
I have the opportunity every day to show my students Christ’s
love and compassion. I definitely have bad days (and weeks!), but
I try to use my job to serve Christ.
I’ve also found that I treasure the time I do have with my
children. I’m learning to ignore the dirty dishes and delight
in my kids instead.
List the struggles of being a Christian Working Mom:
I worked part-time up until this year. Going back full-time has
been one of the most difficult experiences I’ve had. I struggle
with immense amounts of guilt about working. Several acquaintances
of mine are outspoken advocates about mothers staying home. I’m
learning to surround myself with other Christian working moms who
are an encouragement. God reminds me on a daily basis that my goal
is to serve and please Him, not society or other moms. It has been
so encouraging to read about other moms’ joys and struggles
through this newsletter.
I worry about my children’s moral and spiritual development:
will their character grow and develop even if I’m not always
there? I am learning to trust God with my children. He is teaching
me a lot about praying rather than worrying. We try to read a Bible
story each morning at breakfast. This even helps me focus as I start
Favorite Bible Verse:
Lamentations 3:22-24: “The steadfast love of the Lord never
ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.”
What is God teaching you right now?
The transition to working full time has been very difficult, and
I feel like I am constantly a failure. I fail in patience as a mother,
I fail at inspiring my students, I fail at having a clean home,
I fail as a wife, and I fail as a teacher. On my own, I will fail.
These verses in Lamentations remind me that God’s love never
ceases, even when I fail. His mercy is new each day! How freeing
to know that I serve a God who offers mercy and love just when I
feel as though I’ve let everyone down.
I am also learning a lot about judging others. Before I had kids,
I used to judge moms whose children had tantrums or who sent their
children to daycare. Now, my children have tantrums in grocery stores
and they go to daycare! ? I am learning that I cannot begin to understand,
let alone judge, people’s situations, decisions and lives.
Parenting is a humbling experience. ?
Words of Encouragement for other Christian Working Moms
I’m a people pleaser, and I’m learning to please God
alone. Other people’s opinions are just that: opinions. I’m
learning to surround myself with people who will encourage our family
in the decisions we make.
Anything else you would like to share:
Don’t forget to laugh in the midst of chaos! We were trying
to head out the door last night, and our daughter managed to get
the dog food off the counter, open the “childproof”
lid, and dump the contents on the floor. Our dog was happy, even
if Mommy and Daddy were a bit stressed.
Sarah thanks for the laugh today and yes we all need to laugh.
Also, I appreciate the reminder of how we all thought we would be
“better” parents before having children then reality
It is so important as parents to be intentional about teaching
our children about God. As Sarah shared reading a bible story at
breakfast even with young children is implanting God’s words
in their hearts. God promises His Word will not return void.
Till next time,
Kimberly M. Chastain
Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working
Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the
author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an
online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by
email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm.
To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com.
For a free, initial coaching session send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.