April 2013 CWM Interview

Welcome
Interview
Final Thoughts

 

 

The Voices of Christian Working Moms

Newly Released Book
written by
Author Kimberly Chastain

Welcome

What are your favorite things to do in the spring? I feel like in some ways we come out of hibernation and get outside again. It is a great time to talk to neighbors again and the children get to play outside more. CWMs if you don’t hear it from anyone else today I want to say thank you for all you do for your children. Your children are a gift from God and He entrusted you especially to show them His love and care for them. Being a Mom is the hardest and most rewarding job in the world.

I really appreciate Carla taking time to be interviewed this month. She is helping all of us to be encouraged and learn from her.

Carla is a married 40 year old CWM who lives in the United States. She has two boys ages 3 and 9. She is a project manager with a local health plan.

Carla’s joys as a CWM are: I love working. I enjoy both the social and mental aspects that come with my job. As a product manager, I spend a significant amount of my time developing and implementing programs and activities that are designed to improve members’ health. Health and wellness is a personal passion of mine. And, as a Christian, I believe God has called us to take care of our bodies and to live healthy lives so we can better serve him. When our member’s share their individual success stories about weight loss, eating better, and their renewed lease on life, I am reminded that my contributions at work really do make a difference.

I am also fortunate to have some flexibility with my job, allowing me the opportunity to work from home if I have a sick child or a snow day. Additionally, I enjoy a very supportive work environment that believes in family values and corporate ethics.

And while childcare may be no substitute for Mom, I have found that my boys have been able to experience the world in ways they would not if I stayed home. They have come to love and respect individuals of different races, cultures, and belief systems. They have been able to participate in activities that we could never have afforded on one income. I believe this early exposure to a bigger world has been a blessing, and one that will serve them well in life.

Carla struggles with a job that is very demanding. And while I am confident that I’m a better mom for working outside the home, I still feel guilty that I don’t have more time with my children and my spouse. More often than not, it is my spouse that suffers from my lack of attention in the rush to ensure my children eat a healthy supper, finish their homework, music practice and of course do not miss their evening snuggle time.

I also often feel alienated by other moms at church and in some of my social circles. I simply lack interest in long discussions about play dates, breastfeeding, uninvolved husbands, and such. I once left my 6 month old infant for two days with my husband, while I flew to Chicago to give a presentation. One well-meaning mom commented, “I don’t know how you could go off and do that. I could never leave my little one.” I just had to bite my tongue. But, guess what, my boys have a great relationship with their very involved Dad. (Smile)

Favorite Bible Verse: “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.” Matthew 7:7-8

What is God teaching you right now? Patience – patience with my children, with my spouse, and with God. He continues to surprise me with his blessings, just when I thought he had forgotten about my concerns he has opened another door.

Words of Encouragement for other Christian Working Moms

God has not ONE, but MANY jobs for each of us. While our lives may seem crazy and we may feel stressed, God is there to see us through.

Anything else you would like to share:
A favorite quote from my pastor: “There are only two things we can control in life, our effort and our attitude.” Today, I am choosing to be grateful for both my career and the opportunity to be a mother and wife. I am truly blessed.

Carla, I appreciate how you shared that your boys benefit from being with their Dad as well. In this long standing argument about working outside of the home vs. in the home we often leave Dads out of the picture. Many of our sister CWMs have shared that their husband stays home. My long term desire is the church will appreciate how each family makes their own decision about who should and should not work outside the home. That all families in a church will be encouraged and supported that includes single parent families as well. God makes families in all different shapes and sizes. We need to appreciate that in each other.

Final Thoughts

Speaking of spring, may I see a show of “virtual” hands for how many of you have ever received a beautiful dandelion or other weed bouquet from your children? They are most precious and those bouquets go on a vase on the table. I love how children appreciate all of God’s creation, including the weeds.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.