What are your favorite things to do in the spring? I feel like
in some ways we come out of hibernation and get outside again. It
is a great time to talk to neighbors again and the children get
to play outside more. CWMs if you don’t hear it from anyone
else today I want to say thank you for all you do for your children.
Your children are a gift from God and He entrusted you especially
to show them His love and care for them. Being a Mom is the hardest
and most rewarding job in the world.
I really appreciate Carla taking time to be interviewed this month.
She is helping all of us to be encouraged and learn from her.
Carla is a married 40 year old CWM who lives in the United States.
She has two boys ages 3 and 9. She is a project manager with a local
Carla’s joys as a CWM are: I love working. I enjoy both the
social and mental aspects that come with my job. As a product manager,
I spend a significant amount of my time developing and implementing
programs and activities that are designed to improve members’
health. Health and wellness is a personal passion of mine. And,
as a Christian, I believe God has called us to take care of our
bodies and to live healthy lives so we can better serve him. When
our member’s share their individual success stories about
weight loss, eating better, and their renewed lease on life, I am
reminded that my contributions at work really do make a difference.
I am also fortunate to have some flexibility with my job, allowing
me the opportunity to work from home if I have a sick child or a
snow day. Additionally, I enjoy a very supportive work environment
that believes in family values and corporate ethics.
And while childcare may be no substitute for Mom, I have found
that my boys have been able to experience the world in ways they
would not if I stayed home. They have come to love and respect individuals
of different races, cultures, and belief systems. They have been
able to participate in activities that we could never have afforded
on one income. I believe this early exposure to a bigger world has
been a blessing, and one that will serve them well in life.
Carla struggles with a job that is very demanding. And while I
am confident that I’m a better mom for working outside the
home, I still feel guilty that I don’t have more time with
my children and my spouse. More often than not, it is my spouse
that suffers from my lack of attention in the rush to ensure my
children eat a healthy supper, finish their homework, music practice
and of course do not miss their evening snuggle time.
I also often feel alienated by other moms at church and in some
of my social circles. I simply lack interest in long discussions
about play dates, breastfeeding, uninvolved husbands, and such.
I once left my 6 month old infant for two days with my husband,
while I flew to Chicago to give a presentation. One well-meaning
mom commented, “I don’t know how you could go off and
do that. I could never leave my little one.” I just had to
bite my tongue. But, guess what, my boys have a great relationship
with their very involved Dad. (Smile)
Favorite Bible Verse: “Ask and it will be given to you; seek
and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For
everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the
one who knocks, the door will be opened.” Matthew 7:7-8
What is God teaching you right now? Patience – patience with
my children, with my spouse, and with God. He continues to surprise
me with his blessings, just when I thought he had forgotten about
my concerns he has opened another door.
Words of Encouragement for other Christian Working Moms
God has not ONE, but MANY jobs for each of us. While our lives
may seem crazy and we may feel stressed, God is there to see us
Anything else you would like to share:
A favorite quote from my pastor: “There are only two things
we can control in life, our effort and our attitude.” Today,
I am choosing to be grateful for both my career and the opportunity
to be a mother and wife. I am truly blessed.
Carla, I appreciate how you shared that your boys benefit from
being with their Dad as well. In this long standing argument about
working outside of the home vs. in the home we often leave Dads
out of the picture. Many of our sister CWMs have shared that their
husband stays home. My long term desire is the church will appreciate
how each family makes their own decision about who should and should
not work outside the home. That all families in a church will be
encouraged and supported that includes single parent families as
well. God makes families in all different shapes and sizes. We need
to appreciate that in each other.
Speaking of spring, may I see a show of “virtual” hands
for how many of you have ever received a beautiful dandelion or
other weed bouquet from your children? They are most precious and
those bouquets go on a vase on the table. I love how children appreciate
all of God’s creation, including the weeds.