August Christian Working Mom Interview
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We have more and more women joining us each day. So, welcome to Christian Working Mom, a support site for you in your role as a Christian Working Mom.
We have had several women talking about wanting to do an online Bible Study. We are trying to figure out the logistics of how that would work and what we would study. If you are interested in participating in an online Bible Study, please go the Christian Working Mom Blog at http://kimberlychastain.com/my-journal and post what you would like to see in a Bible Study and any other comments you may have. Thanks so much. We can all grow together.

Blog Comments

We have had lots of interesting discussions on the blog. One comment was the “best” job you ever had. Also, we are discussing the online Bible Study. The most recent post is what would be the best new invention for you as a Mom? You can be as outlandish as you want to be. Can’t wait to see what you have to say.
You can reach the blog at http://kimberlychastain.com/my-journal.


Interview

Sue is a 40 year old CWM who lives in Colorado in the United States. Sue says she has been married for 17 years and says that is often hard to find time to be with her husband who is truly her best friend. She has two children a son age 8 who loves Spiderman and loves to play all day. Her daughter is 2 and all ready has a love for shoes. Sue says she is all girl.

Sue shares by day she is the Vice President of a Commercial Real Estate Service financial institution. My favorite part of real estate and my job is digging into the deals to find the “story”. There is a story to everything! By night (and sometimes early morning), I host and publish a web site for moms called UnlimitedMom (http://www.unlimitedmom.com). I started UnlimitedMom as a means to articulate and understand many of the internal struggles I had after my son was born. There seems to be so much controversy out there about how to be the “best” kind of mom, and I wanted to create an environment where a mom was just free to be herself.

Recently, I’ve added an e-newsletter containing monthly devotionals for moms. This has come as a response to a push I’ve been getting from God to devote more of my time to studying His word and in sharing my thoughts on it in my writing.

Sue shares the following joys of being a Christian Working Mom:

The best part is to share with my kids the love of Jesus Christ, as well as the knowledge that God has a plan for each of us, and our only aim in life should be to serve God and fulfill His plan (even if we don’t know what it is!) I love sharing the pride and commitment I have in my work and seeing those values reflected in their behavior.

Thinking about my children and how I want them to grow up has made me look at myself and try to be a better person, as I am their closest and best example to follow. It is an awesome responsibility, but one that I know God will help me achieve.

I’ve found that sharing my failures with my kids ends up strengthening my faith. They love me unconditionally, and look to me for guidance even when I don’t think I’m worthy. I have to believe that God gave them to me for a reason and I don’t want to let Him down! I want to be able to share with them that everyone (even grown-ups) makes mistakes; but, as long as we ask, God will always forgive and give us another chance.

Sue shares the following struggles of being a Christian Working Mom:

I always struggle with wanting more time for “something else”. If I’m busy at work, I want more time at home. If there are a lot of family obligations, I want more personal time. Then, I feel guilty that I’m not happy with the way life is.

Guilt is a killer for all moms, but especially for working moms and Christians who feel they have to be happy all the time to reflect the “Christian lifestyle.” I’m slowly learning that even Jesus’ disciples weren’t happy all the time, and surely they were not the picture-perfect examples sitting on the pedestal we always put them on. They made mistakes, got angry, and acted as human as the rest of us. The important thing is to know that despite the sin that brings sadness and guilt into our lives, God loves us for who were are and wants to help us become the people He sees we can be.

The struggle is remembering all that when I am in the midst of a complicated project at work, carting my son from one activity to another, or trying to get the laundry done. In other words, during “real life…”

Sue’s favorite Bible Verse is: Philippians 4:13: For I can do everything with the help of Christ who gives me the strength I need.

What is God teaching you right now?

Probably the biggest lesson God has taught me in the last year is that I am not in control and I DON’T always know what’s best for me. This has been made abundantly clear to me through a somewhat painful experience.

About a year ago I decided I was ready for a job change and set it in my head to find a new job within a year. I did everything the books told me to do: updated my resume, upgraded the wardrobe and started networking like crazy. Sure enough, after about 6 months, I was interviewing for my “dream job” – and I got the offer!

The next day when I called to accept the position – I was told their organizational structure had unexpectedly changed and they had to rescind the offer they had made the day before.

I was crushed. I couldn’t believe all my hard work had led to this.

After a lot of tears, a lot of prayers, and a lot of time, God led me to realize that the dream job I craved was not what He has planned for me. It was my plan, not His.

To be honest, I still don’t know WHAT God has in store for me. But what I am learning, day to day, is to quiet my inner control freak and listen to hear what He is trying to tell me.


Words of Encouragement for other Christian Working Moms

Just remember no matter what you are going through or feeling, you are not the first, you won’t be the last, and you don’t have to do it alone. God is always there for you and will help you through it. And he has put others on this earth who understand and want to be there for you and help you through too. For some strange reason, we all tend to think we have to suffer silently and handle it all ourselves. Accept the gift of other people! They are God’s tools, placed here to help you when you need it the most.


Sue thanks for reminding us that God is truly in control and we need to yield to him. I think we all can be control “freaks” from time to time. Appreciate you sharing.

Till next time,

Kimberly Chastain

Kimberly Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the founder of CWMU and author of 2 ebooks that can be found at www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to Kimberly@kimberlychastain.com with free coaching in the subject heading.