August 2012 Pearls of Encouragement for CWMs
Blog question of the month
Article – The most important prayer you can pray for your children
Final Thoughts

 

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Blog question of the month

I decided I would start posting a blog question of the month on the http://christianworkingmoms.blogspot.com. So, the question for this month is to share a funny story or something your children have said. I’m convinced one of the reasons God gives us children is to remind us to laugh. So, please share.

Sorry the August issue has come out late this month. I just moved my oldest child into college. It was a bittersweet time, but I’m happy for her. Yes, it seems like yesterday she was a baby!!

Article – The most important prayer you can pray for your children

As Christian parents we are called to pray and instruct our children in the ways of the Lord. The most important prayer we can pray for our children is that they will become a Christ follower at a young age. As one pastor put it to me, “that there will never be a day when your child does not remember knowing God.”

Let me point out that I said pray for your child to be a Christ follower not a Christian. I was very specific in the wording, why? To become a Christ follower means you imitate Christ and you are obedient to His word. We all know people who are Christian in name only, but we can’t see any difference between them and non-Christians.

I live in the Southeastern, United States. We have a church on every corner. Often, children make decisions for Christ at a very young age. Some of those decisions made to please parents, a pastor, or because other children are making a decision. All those are the wrong and unbiblical reasons to become a Christ follower. A speaker recently said we have a church full of teenagers who are good church attenders, but not Christians.

So, how do we know if our children have made a sincere decision to be a Christ follower? Only God knows for sure, but here are some things to ask and look for:

  1. Ask your children why they are making the decision?
  2. Are they aware of their sin and even why they need a Savior?
  3. Explain that God’s penalty for sin is death. The only way we are declared not guilty is due to the work of Christ on the cross. Christ paid our penalty for sin and gave us eternal life.
  4. Look for fruit in your child’s life? Even if they are young. Are they seeking to do things differently? Do they want to study God’s Word?
  5. Do they take a stand for Christ, even if they are alone, or do they tend to hide their Christian faith?
  6. Are they convicted of sin when it is committed, in other words, is the Holy Spirit active even in their young lives?
  7. If a young child is making a decision, don’t jump to have them baptized immediately (depends on how your church handles baptism). Wait till you see some fruit of their decision.
  8. A mother told me once she didn’t know for sure if her children were Christians till she saw them handle adversity. Do they seek God and put their trust in Him even when things are going badly? A very thought provoking question.
  9. Do you see them going through the motions in worship or Sunday school? Do you see them soaking in God’s Word or checking off a weekly to do list.
  10. Do you see that they have a heart for God and the things are heavenly Father has a heart for as well.

One of my big concerns lately is parents have a false assurance that their children made a decision when they were very young to become a Christian, but there is absolutely no indication that their child is a Christian. Just because a child walks an aisle at a young age does not mean they are a Christian. Also, as parents we are called to pray that God will draw our children to Him and He will keep them close.

Please don’t rush your children to make a decision to be a Christ follower. Allow God to draw them to Himself in His timing. Once your child makes that decision for Christ have them write down the date and some of the things they were thinking when they made the decision. I had both of my children write that down in their children’s Bibles and they have really appreciated it. They often look back to see what they wrote.

A final word of warning, all of us have times when we stray from the faith and are not walking with God as we should. That does not mean we are not Christians. It becomes a problem when the straying does not bother us at all.

For us as Christian Moms there is absolutely no greater responsibility than to point our children to God.

Final Thoughts

Let me close with verse 4 from 3 John, “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.” May that be said of our children!

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.