Blog question of the month
I decided I would start posting a blog question of the month on
the http://christianworkingmoms.blogspot.com. So, the question for
this month is to share a funny story or something your children
have said. I’m convinced one of the reasons God gives us children
is to remind us to laugh. So, please share.
Sorry the August issue has come out late this month. I just moved
my oldest child into college. It was a bittersweet time, but I’m
happy for her. Yes, it seems like yesterday she was a baby!!
Article – The most important prayer you can pray
for your children
As Christian parents we are called to pray and instruct our children
in the ways of the Lord. The most important prayer we can pray for
our children is that they will become a Christ follower at a young
age. As one pastor put it to me, “that there will never be
a day when your child does not remember knowing God.”
Let me point out that I said pray for your child to be a Christ
follower not a Christian. I was very specific in the wording, why?
To become a Christ follower means you imitate Christ and you are
obedient to His word. We all know people who are Christian in name
only, but we can’t see any difference between them and non-Christians.
I live in the Southeastern, United States. We have a church on
every corner. Often, children make decisions for Christ at a very
young age. Some of those decisions made to please parents, a pastor,
or because other children are making a decision. All those are the
wrong and unbiblical reasons to become a Christ follower. A speaker
recently said we have a church full of teenagers who are good church
attenders, but not Christians.
So, how do we know if our children have made a sincere decision
to be a Christ follower? Only God knows for sure, but here are some
things to ask and look for:
- Ask your children why they are making the decision?
- Are they aware of their sin and even why they need a Savior?
- Explain that God’s penalty for sin is death. The only
way we are declared not guilty is due to the work of Christ on
the cross. Christ paid our penalty for sin and gave us eternal
- Look for fruit in your child’s life? Even if they are
young. Are they seeking to do things differently? Do they want
to study God’s Word?
- Do they take a stand for Christ, even if they are alone, or
do they tend to hide their Christian faith?
- Are they convicted of sin when it is committed, in other words,
is the Holy Spirit active even in their young lives?
- If a young child is making a decision, don’t jump to have
them baptized immediately (depends on how your church handles
baptism). Wait till you see some fruit of their decision.
- A mother told me once she didn’t know for sure if her
children were Christians till she saw them handle adversity. Do
they seek God and put their trust in Him even when things are
going badly? A very thought provoking question.
- Do you see them going through the motions in worship or Sunday
school? Do you see them soaking in God’s Word or checking
off a weekly to do list.
- Do you see that they have a heart for God and the things are
heavenly Father has a heart for as well.
One of my big concerns lately is parents have a false assurance
that their children made a decision when they were very young to
become a Christian, but there is absolutely no indication that their
child is a Christian. Just because a child walks an aisle at a young
age does not mean they are a Christian. Also, as parents we are
called to pray that God will draw our children to Him and He will
keep them close.
Please don’t rush your children to make a decision to be
a Christ follower. Allow God to draw them to Himself in His timing.
Once your child makes that decision for Christ have them write down
the date and some of the things they were thinking when they made
the decision. I had both of my children write that down in their
children’s Bibles and they have really appreciated it. They
often look back to see what they wrote.
A final word of warning, all of us have times when we stray from
the faith and are not walking with God as we should. That does not
mean we are not Christians. It becomes a problem when the straying
does not bother us at all.
For us as Christian Moms there is absolutely no greater responsibility
than to point our children to God.
Let me close with verse 4 from 3 John, “I have no greater
joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.”
May that be said of our children!
Till next time,
Kimberly M. Chastain
Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working
Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the
author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an
online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by
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