Christian Working Mom Interview December 2008
Merry Christmas
Blog/Online Bible Study
CWM Coaching Tips
Interview
Final Thoughts
Merry Christmas

May I wish you a Blessed Christmas. In our crazy, hectic lives I pray that you can take time to be quiet and focus on that blessed day 2,000 years ago when our Savior was born. We have all received the best Christmas present ever. Enjoy the extra time with your children and see Christmas through the eyes of a child.

Blog/Online Bible Study

I have a burning question for you on the CWM Blog. We are about to upset tradition at our house and not open gifts on Christmas Eve. We are going to only open one gift and the rest on Christmas Day. Normally, we open gifts on Christmas Eve and Santa on Christmas Day. The boys in our house want to change whereas the girls in our house don’t want to change. So, go visit the CWM Blog at
http://christianworkingmoms.blogspot.com and share what your family does.

The CWM online Bible Study can be found at http://cwmbiblestudy.blogspot.com.

CWM Coaching Tips

Give yourself a Christmas present that will last throughout the year. Unwrap a CWM Coaching Tip delivered to your email box daily and grow in your walk with the Lord. To find out more go to:
http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm.

Interview

This month I delighted to have a CWM interview from Lisa in Australia. I always get so excited when I think about all the CWM sisters in Christ all over the world. Enjoy the interview and Lisa thanks so much for sharing.

Lisa is a 37 year old CWM who lives in Sydney, Australia. She has been married for almost 10 years. She has a son age 4 ½ and a daughter age 3. Lisa works on research at a local university and does editorial work on two Australian journals in special education. She is also a freelance writer for Australian Christian Woman magazine. In 2009, Lisa will begin working full time on a PhD.

Lisa shares the following joys of being a CWM: I currently work 3 days a week and find that a nice balance. I enjoy going to work to talk with grown ups, and to be able to go to the Ladies (toilet!) without being harassed or followed :-) (Lisa, I remember one of my goals in life was to go to the bathroom by myself – the joys of being a Mom). I also enjoy an uninterrupted lunch break.

Lisa struggles in being a CWM in the following areas: It can be extremely challenging when one of the children have a restless night, especially when I have to go to work the next day. There is little ‘down time’, or time to be still: I either work at home or work at work. It is often hard to find the time for quality Bible study and prayer.

Lisa’s favorite Bible Verses are:

Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, and he will make your paths straight.”

Also, Proverbs 31:10-31, “The wife of noble character.”

There are several things God is currently teaching Lisa. I’m learning (the hard way) that my agenda is not always the same as God’s agenda. God answers all prayer, but sometimes not in the way I would like or hope. I’m therefore learning to recognize answer to prayer which is not limited by my preconceived ideas.

I’m also learning about the importance of faithfulness in all situations, both big and small. Sometimes the small things are easy to dismiss as not being really important. If I continue to sweep the small things under the mat, I continue to exercise some degree of faithlessness. I believe God is calling my bluff on this one.

Finally, I’m being taught the importance of listening, especially in prayer. How will God speak to me (my heart) if I’m not quiet long enough to hear Him?

Lisa wants to encourage other CWMs by saying: You deserve a medal! The sheer amount of work and juggling that work can be overwhelming. Thankfully, God is right there for you. He knows how hard it can be to deal with toddler tantrums and tight deadlines, occasionally at the same time!

Also, Lisa shares some of difficult struggles over the past few years:
For the past couple of years have been quite challenging for me, trying to balance family and work outside the home. I’ve had varying degrees of success (usually depending on how much coffee I’ve had!). The biggest challenge, however, has been dealing with postnatal depression, and coming to grips with the fact that I had also experienced depression before having children, even though I could never admit it. I have two degrees in psychology, and I considered myself a strong Christian, and yet I suffered depression. What I have come to realize, however, is that depression was not a liability which hindered my relationship with God: rather, it was actually an asset that ultimately helped to deepen my relationship with God.

I used to pray for immediate healing, and an instant removal of depression. Instead, with God by my side, and armed with years of psychological training, I worked through the issues of depression and developed strategies to deal with it. As a result, instead of experiencing God’s faithfulness at a single moment, I saw first hand the ongoing nature of His faithfulness over time, all the time. Such has been my experience of depression!

Recently, over the course of six months, I documented these discoveries, not only about myself, but also about my relationship with God. It has changed my life, and I hope it will change the lives of others. These personal memoirs have just been published by Ark House Press in a book called “Stepping out of Darkness” (http://www.arkhousepress.com/).

Lisa, as a therapist I don’t know how many times Christians have said to me that they are “bad” Christians due to being depressed. Yet, David was obviously depressed at times. Thanks for sharing your story and reminding us of God’s faithfulness.

Final Thoughts

I can’t believe another year is almost over. I know I’m sounding old, but the years are flying by. If you can take some time over the Christmas holidays to focus on how you would like to grow in your walk with God through 2009. May He be glorified in all we do.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. You can find more information about Christian Working Moms at www.christianworkingmom.com For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.