December 2008 Pearls of Encouragement for CWMs
Welcome and Thanks
Prayer Partners Needed
Interview Participants Needed
Blog/Online Bible Study
CWM Coaching Tips
Article – 10 Ways To Reduce Anxiety
Final Thoughts
Welcome

We have had lots of new CWMs join our community. Welcome and we are glad you are here. Can you believe Christmas is almost here and 2009 will be over soon? I can’t for one. I still have lots of Christmas shopping to do. Usually for December I write a Christmas article. This year I decided to write about how to reduce anxiety. We are all living in anxious times right now. Also, it seems as women we are really great worriers. To view Christmas articles from the past go to www.christianworkingmom.com and click on the archives link or the free articles link. There is an article entitled, “Maybe this Christmas will be Different” which is about families who have difficult situations. So, take a look.

Thanks so much for coming to the rescue to fill out the CWM Survey. If you remember my goal was to get 2,000 CWMs to fill out the survey. Now, I believe I’m at 2,010. So, a big thanks to helping reach the goal. I do look forward to sharing the data with you in the future.

Are you looking for a great gift for yourself or a girlfriend? Check out the 3 book set by Karen Scalf Linamen. Click here to find out more. My favorite title in the set is Just Hand Over the Chocolate and No One Will Get Hurt.

Prayer Partners

We have a CWM who would like a prayer partner. Prayer partners meet virtually and agree to pray for one another’s needs. I have heard of some wonderful comments from CWMs about how much they appreciate their prayer partners. So, if you would like to have a prayer partner send me an email to Kimberly@kimberlychastain.com and put Prayer partner in the subject heading and I will connect you with another CWM. Thanks in advance for your help.

Interview Participants Needed

As you all know once a month we have an interview from a CWM. I really enjoy learning from other CWMs all over the world. So, if you are interested in being interviewed send an email to Kimberly@kimberlychastain.com with interview in the subject heading. I will send you a list of questions. I promise you it is practically painless. This is an SOS and I need CWMs to participate!!

Blog/Online Bible Study

We have had some great discussions on the CWM Blog about Christmas and how you keep Christ in Christmas. Please come join the discussion at http://christianworkingmoms.blogspot.com. The Online Bible Study can be found at http://cwmbiblestudy.blogspot.com. I apologize for not adding any new lessons recently. I simply have not had the time or should I say taken the time.

CWM Coaching Tips

Consider a gift for yourself for the New Year. Subscribe to CWM Coaching Tips and get a tip emailed to you daily to encourage you in your Christian walk. To find out more go to:
http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm.

Article – 10 Ways To Reduce Anxiety

In these uncertain economic times, it is very easy to get anxious and worry about your future. Often anxious thoughts can become overwhelming. Also, children are starting to become more and more anxious as well. Here are some tried and true techniques to deal with any kind of anxiety. These techniques can work with children and adults.

1. Pray to God for peace and trust that He is sovereign in your life. Leave your worries with him. He will be up all night anyway. Read scripture that addresses the issue of worrying. An excellent Christian Book and Bible Study on this topic is Calm My Anxious Heart by Linda Dillow. This is a book you will read and reread for years to come. Click here to find out more.
2. Remember to breathe deeply. Take deep belly breaths and hold for 10 seconds and then slowly release the breath for 10 seconds.
3. Schedule time to worry. Each day you are allowed to worry for 15 minutes about anything. If a thought comes up that is not during the worry time, tell the thought you can worry during the scheduled worry time.
4. Journal what you are worrying about. Writing thoughts down gets the thoughts out of your head and onto paper. Often after writing down your thoughts you receive clarity about the situation you are worried about and can develop an action plan.
5. Are you worrying about something you can actually change? If so, then make the change. If not, then how is worrying beneficial?
6. Look back over your life and realize that most of the things you worried about in the past, in reality, never happened.
7. Get physical. Take a walk or go for a run. Just get moving. It is hard to be anxious and physical at the same time. Exercise is a natural anti-depressant and anti-anxiety remedy.
8. Bring to mind a place where you love to relax (ex. looking at the ocean, hiking, etc.).Place yourself in the picture and remember the calm feelings you experienced at your special place.
9. Call a friend or do something with your family to get your mind off your anxious thoughts. Distraction is a great way to reduce anxiety.
10. Focus on being in the moment constantly. Work on the task at hand with all your might. You can make it from this moment to the next moment. None of us are guaranteed tomorrow or even the next minute.

As a matter of fact, worrying has never solved anything. Do you ever remember saying to yourself, “Worrying about that problem or situation made me feel so much better?” I expect not. Yet, some of us can be prone to anxious thoughts and worry. The above techniques can help decrease your anxiety to make it more manageable.

The Bible is clear that when we worry that shows a lack of trust in our Savior. May we trust in Him with the big worries and the little ones as well. Learn to rest in your Savior’s arms and leave your worries with Him.

Final Thoughts

May I be one of the first to wish you a Merry Christmas!! May the joy of our Savior’s birth be evident in your life and your family’s lives throughout the year.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. You can find more information about Christian Working Moms at www.christianworkingmom.com For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.