February 2011 CWM Interview

Welcome
Interview
Final Thoughts
 
Welcome

 

 

The Voices of Christian Working Moms

Newly Released Book
written by
Author Kimberly Chastain

Our CWM community grows each day and we welcome women from all over the world, like Pat today from Canada we will me in a moment. Forgive the lateness of our February CWM interview. Sickness hit my house and especially me. So, God has made me slow down this week. I also learned an important, but difficult lesson that my family can do fine without me. (I did try to interfere sometimes and was told to go to bed)!
I pray that you continue to grow in God each day and His love for you.

Interview

Let’s meet Pat, a 59 year old married CWM who lives in Mississauga, Ontario, Canada. Pat has sons ages 23, 33, a daughter age 29 and a granddaughter age 8 and grandson age 9. Pat has been married for 35 years. She is a College professor and director/founder of 2 non-profit organizations.

Pat’s favorite Bible verse is: “In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” Matthew 5:16.

Pat shares these Joys in being a Christian Working Mom:

Mentor to my children:

• Being able to teach my children, through the Scriptures and by my example that God required us to work and not depend on someone else or the system for support... Laziness is not an option.
• Showing them that working in ones vocation is a ministry unto God.
• Helping them understand that work is worshiping God
• Teaching them that work or a job should not keep them from serving God
• Teaching them to honour God with their money and time
• Teaching them to be gentle, kind and integral on the job, has helped them as they work in their career.

Marketplace:

• Being the marketplace minister God has called me to be.
• Being the light of Jesus in the workplace and getting the opportunity each day touch the lives of my students and colleagues.
• Meeting students and faculty from all religion and culture

Household:

• Watching God take care of my family and day to day affairs as I struggled to balance home, work and ministry.
• Being a financial support for my husband

Pat shares these struggles of being a Christian Working Mom:

After our first son I became a stay at home mom, working only 4 days in a month in order to keep my professional status. When our second child was born we moved to another country then had to leave after a year due to political unrest. When we returned to Canada I had to return to work full time in order to help support my husband financially. This was a difficult time as we had planned for me to be home.

We hired a nanny for the children as my husband was bed ridden and I worked long hours. Hiring a nanny was a financial sacrifice and we put off many purchases so our children could be in their own home and not go to a daycare or a sitter. My biggest struggle was being away from the children and having someone else care for them.

• Juggling work, being a mother and wife and ministry was very challenging, however God grace prevailed.

What is God teaching you right now?

God is teaching me to continually trust Him, in everything. To immerse myself in Him and His Word, which never fails. To daily cast my cares on him, that my battles are His and His love is constant and unconditional and has room for mistakes and repairs.

He is faithful in keeping his promise of always being with me. I am reminded that although the "woman of valor," (Proverbs 31), is an entrepreneur and wears many hats, the focus of her existence is her relationships with her husband, children and family.

I have learned to thank God for the daily miracles in my life.

Words of Encouragement for other Christian Working Moms

Life is good…God is good… and He is watching over you and your family!

The Hebrew word for mother is “ima”, a root for the word emunah, faith. Ima is also a connected to the word for truth, emet, as mothers we pass on our faith in God and the truth of his Word; by the way we convey our approach about life to our children.

For young moms who must go to work, don’t let anyone make you feel guilty or inferior as a mom or wife. God is not ashamed of you. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you to balance work and family. Never leave God out of the equation of your life, work and family.

Communication is key in your relationship with your husband and children. Be their role model. Try to go on a date with your husband so that he does not feel left out. Be gentle as you instruct your children in the ways of God. Children need guidance, no matter how old they are. They must feel safe. Even when they are adults let your home be the sanctuary they can come to anytime. Keep your doors open.

Education is important so spend some time helping with home work and attending parent /teacher interviews.

If possible be a part of at least one ministry in your church…preferably a ministry that you can be involved with from home when the children are small (such as prayer or home fellowship)

If you are a single mom or divorced: remember that God takes special notice of you and He has provided for you and your children. Connect yourself to a church fellowship group for support or find a Christian mentor that will pray with you and encourage you to fulfill you potential as a mom and woman of God.

If you are a mom of teenagers, never give up and never lose hope if your teenager isn’t at the place you would like them to be in their lives. Love them through their difficulties and challenges. Situations may not be easy, however just as the God loves all of His children and we are empowered by this knowledge, so too will your son or daughter be empowered through the recognition of your unwavering love and commitment. Appreciate your family and have faith in them.

In the workplace integrity is important. As women we are blessed with the ability to create positive environments. Be the best employee; bring honour to yourself, your work and God. Pray for your boss and coworkers and see God’s favour upon you. Cover yourself with prayer and the blood of Jesus before you go into the work place. If all possible try not to bring work home.

Remember:

• Be concerned about your character than you reputation as your character is what you really are and your reputation is what one thinks of you.
• God is in control of your life and your family’s and he does not take a nap. Know without a shadow of a doubt that you serve The Lord Jesus Christ
• Discover the unique talent that God has given you and ask Him how to fulfill your destiny.
• Encourage the talents and gifts that God has given your children.
• Be the best wife to your husband, encourage him, and pray for him, he is the priest of your home, even if sometimes he does not behave like one. He is not perfect and neither are you.
• Each challenge that you face is custom designed by God, you are here for a purpose and He will never abandon you. His love towards you is everlasting.
• God put in a mother a special, deep and unceasing love for her children, to the point that she will deny her happiness to ensure that they are happy. She wants them to be successful more than even they do. Show your children and husband that you love them even more than they love themselves.

Pat is involved in many different organizations she has founded and directs. You can find out more by going to her following websites:
www.scholarshiptraining.com
www.girlsofdestiny.com
www.teamworkchildrenservices.com

Pat I appreciate you showing us God’s faithfulness over the years with your children and family. Also, you let us know we serve in different ways based on the ages of our children and need to give ourselves permission to be less involved when our children are young and then grow in our involvement in ministry as we can. You are an excellent example of shining your light before men for His glory.

Final Thoughts

One of the many things I love about our CWM community is learning from women who have walked the path before us. I love to hear women who can testify to God’s faithfulness even in the most difficult times of their lives. I pray this interview today encouraged you and that you know how much God loves and cares for you.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.