January 2010 CWM Interview
Welcome
CWM Blog/Online Bible Study
CWM Coaching Tips
Interview
Final Thoughts
Welcome

We have lots of new CWMs joining our community recently. Welcome and you will find a great group of Christian women who support and encourage one another. A great example is Crystal who shares with us today. To read past issues of CWM go to: http://www.kimberlychastain.com/newsletters/archives.htm. I had to share a funny story that I’m sure you all can relate to. I recently had a pretty severe stomach bug and was out of commission for at least two days. The house ran fine. We had clean clothes and food to eat. Everyone pitched in. Now here is the funny part. My family said (once I was feeling better), “We can tell you are feeling better, because you are telling us what to do again.” So true. I guess Mom is often the operations general of the house. Hope you are having a blessed New Year and God is teaching you many new things about Himself.

Blog/Online Bible Study

We are having an excellent discussion on the CWM blog about Facebook. Come share your thoughts as well. We have a lot of wise, Godly women in our community. The CWM blog can be found at http://christianworkingmoms.blogspot.com. The online Bible study can be found at http://cwmbiblestudy.blogspot.com. Still hope to post a new study soon.

CWM Coaching Tips

Are you ready to dig deeper into God’s Word? Then, have CWM Coaching Tips emailed to you daily. You will memorize one verse a week and hide it in your heart. To find out more go to: http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm.

Interview

Crystal is a married 29 year old who lives in the USA. Crystal has a daughter age 2 ½ and a son is due on March 5th. She married her high school sweetheart and they have been married for 7 years. Crystal is a teacher who teaches in a multi-age 3rd, 4th, and 5th grade classroom.

Crystal shares the following joys in being a CWM: I love being able to use my gifts and talents to impact and nurture the lives of my students. I also really enjoy the relationships that I’ve cultivated with my coworkers. Although many of my colleagues are non-Christians I often feel like I have more in common with them than my stay-at-home Christian friends. They understand both the joys and difficulties of working with a family. Working gives me a sense of fulfillment and the feeling that I’m participating in something greater than myself.

Crystal struggles with connecting with other working moms. I want to meet with other working moms, but after a day of working the last thing I want to do is leave my family to fellowship with other people. I want to stay home and cuddle my daughter! I feel the same way about my weekends – I want to enjoy my family, not run around to weekend retreats or bible studies. I wish I could find a way to balance both of my wants. I have this need to be with my family and the need to meet with other moms---but when??

Her favorite Bible verse is: Psalm 73:25-26 Whom have I in heaven but You? And there is none upon earth that I desire besides You. My flesh and my heart fail; But God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.

What is God teaching you right now? God is teaching me that my situation in life has been divinely ordained by him. That working allows me to use my gifts for his glory and to also be a living testimony of his grace. Recently in church our pastor was preaching on the calling of Matthew (Matthew 9:9-13). Jesus went to Matthew’s house and many tax collectors and sinners were also gathering there. The Pharisees saw this and couldn’t believe how Jesus was associating with THOSE kinds of people! I have come to glory in the fact that without contact there is no influence. Working has given me an opportunity to have contact with many different types of people. It allows me to influence both my coworkers and my students by living out my beliefs.

Crystal shares these words of encouragement for other Christian Working Moms: It can be difficult for stay-at-home moms to understand how and why we work. Some of us work because we must. Some of us work for the added income and the sense of fulfillment. Whatever reason you work, it doesn’t matter what kind of attitudes you come across. Take pride in the person God created you to be and the influence you have on those around you. The only thing that matters is that you are in God’s will and that ‘the heart of your husband safely trusts in you” (Proverbs 31:11). I know that my house is in order and my husband has full confidence in me.

Crystal shares a painful story that I think many of us can relate to, unfortunately. I recently had a ‘friend’ tell me she could no longer be my friend because I work and she couldn’t respect that. She questioned how I could reconcile working with my relationship with God. She even went so far as to ask how I could be having another child when I “don’t even take care of the one I have.” Although she was projecting many of her own fears and struggles onto me, her words greatly hurt me. I want working women to know that this is NOT a moral decision. Being at home doesn’t make you godlier than the women who work outside of the home. Life is hard; whether you stay home, work part-time, or full-time…it’s difficult! It’s just that the struggles may be different.

Crystal thanks so much for speaking out loud what many CWMs feel, but don’t always feel comfortable saying. May we all desire to know more of God.

Final Thoughts

The pictures of the Haiti earthquake are so difficult to watch and rip out our hearts. We can pray with our children for the children in Haiti, the people there helping them, and that God’s name will be proclaimed during this difficult time. We can also teach our children about giving to those in need.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.