July 2010 CWM Interview
Welcome
Interview
Final Thoughts
 
Welcome

Wow! We had lots of prayer partners matched last month. I get so excited about women praying for one another all over the world. Our CWM community grows more each month. May God use all of us to encourage and support one another as sisters in Christ.

Interview

I had the privilege of meeting Jennifer over the phone and was very excited about what she was doing for CWMs in her area. Now I would like for you to meet her. Jennifer is a married 35 year old CWM who lives in the United States. She has a boy who is 5 ½ and is expecting another baby in December. Jennifer wears lots of hats. She is a business analyst for a software company. She is on the board of directors for a Christian Community Center and is moderator for a local online CWM group and CWM community groups.

Jennifer shares the following joys of being a Christian Working Mom:

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• Exercising my giftedness
• Exhortation – encouraging others in the workplace personally, professionally and spiritually
• Working offers a bridge to understanding the challenges of working moms thus creating an opportunity for a workplace ministry
• Engaging in fellowship with other CWMs – spurring on one another, sharpening, encouraging, validating and celebrating
• Discovering confidence and comfort in where and how God placed me in the workplace as a wife and mother.
• Offering my children a role model (which I try desperately to be but also often fail at). How to act with integrity and respect in the workplace, how to achieve goals and how to prioritize God, marriage, family and work – with work not taking a priority over what matters most.

Jennifer struggles in being a Christian Working Mom in the following areas:
• Those pesky schedules when they must be juggled, tossed, stepped on and cemented for the sake of sanity, family, health and work.
• Learning when to ask for help while watching the juggling act fail.
• Partnering with my husband to share responsibilities in parenting and home. It may not ever be 50/50 all the time, but we strive together towards teamwork.
• Understanding that there is no such thing as work/life “balance”, despite the numerous failed attempts to find that oasis.
• Finding faith based support of CWMs (though I am trying to change that locally)

Favorite Bible Verse:

Jeremiah 29:11 – “For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future.” Liked it so much, I had it tattoo’d on my shoulder blade as a constant reminder of his faithfulness. I love it. (That’s a creative way to memorize Scripture, says Kimberly).

What is God teaching you right now?

Summed up, he has taught me how to trust in his perfect plan for our family and how to celebrate the Waiting Room we so desperately run from in times of trial. See: http://clanoftheatkins.blogspot.com/

Also, he is teaching me to slow down:
• do a few things well instead of many things moderately
• tap into the gifts of others (like husbands and kids) when asking for help – instead of the fraught with error “I’ve got to do it myself if I want it done right”
• invest in relationships instead of time spent on a meticulous home, well organized closets and a sharp outer appearance. I will no longer buy into “your home reflects how healthy you are on the inside”. A few scattered things about, some dishes in the sink, toys on the floor, and a pile of laundry but still my house is in order.

Words of Encouragement for other Christian Working Moms
• value family dinner time, being “all there”. Fight for it.
• seek out Christians at work – creating a network and support system
• shake up your friendships – mix your working moms and stay-at-home mom friends together. We have a lot to learn from each other.
• Appreciate and validate the man your husband is trying to be, finding that often respect will breed partnership.
• Stop trying to be in control of everything and allow others to participate. You may be a rock star working mom, but you weren’t meant to rule it all.
• Lift up your chin on those days when you can’t stand driving away from your child at daycare/school/camp or grandma’s house and know this – 1) God may use the gifts of many people to grow your child, so let him and 2) have confidence in where he has called you to and allow him to be your source of strength.
• Dispel the myth that the daycare worker or teacher knows your child better than you because you are working mom. No one can or will take your place!

Anything else you would like to share:
• I love Kimberly Chastain. ? Hey, Jennifer I love you to and all you do for Christ and other CWMs.

I pray that women all over the world can follow Jennifer’s example to start a CWM group in their area. I know you have a lot on your plate. Maybe you and another CWM in your area can decide to start a group that meets once a month to study Scripture, pray for, and support one another. It can be done. Thanks Jennifer for sharing today and encouraging me and other CWMs.

Final Thoughts

Our burdens seem a lot lighter when we share them with others. Often, we don’t want others to know we have problems. Take a risk and ask others to pray for you and you lift others up in prayer as well.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.