July 2010 Pearls of Encouragement
Hot enough for you?
Prayer partner needed
Article – Do you feel appreciated as a Mom?
Hot enough for you?
Here in the United States we are
having a heat wave in most places. We were going
to the pool today, but it would be 97 degrees.
The water isn’t very cold when it is 97
degrees, so we decided not to go. Now, I know
in South Africa they are wearing winter coats
right now. How do I know? We have been watching
FIFA World Cup Soccer non-stop at my house. My
son is a huge soccer fan. So, I hope where you
live the weather is just right. If not, it will
change soon. We have had lots of new CWMs added
to our community recently. Welcome! You will find
encouragement and support here. You can go to
to see all the many resources for you.
Prayer Partner needed
In our CWM community we have virtual prayer partners.
How does that work? Two CWMs communicate by email
and share prayer requests with one another. Then,
you commit to pray and support one another. Some
of our prayer partners have a partner who lives
in another country from their own. Right now I
have a request for a prayer partner and do not
have anyone available. So, if you are willing
to be a prayer partner or would like one send
an email to Kimberly@kimberlychastain.com
and put prayer partner in the subject heading
and I will connect you with a prayer partner.
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– Do You Feel Appreciated as a Mom?
True confession time. This past week I felt really
unappreciated as a Mom. You may say just this
past week? I am a parent of a teenager and a soon
to be teenager in a few months. Needless to say
there are moods swings going rampant at my house
and they are not just in my children!! Maybe it
was my time for a pity party, but I really felt
all I do is either unappreciated or unnoticed.
My hunch is I’m not alone in this feeling.
I remember when my children were babies with the
sleepless nights, diaper changes, clothing changes
for me and them and the seeming endless to do
lists. Do what we do as a Mom matter and are we
I want to share with you two very important lessons
I learned in my pity party. First of all what
we do for our children, spouses, and others is
an act of worship. Let’s look at two verses
in the Bible that support this belief. “So,
whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do,
do all to the glory of God.” 1 Corinthians
10:31. The second verse, “I appeal to you
therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to
present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy
and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual
worship.” Romans 12:1. You see when we wash
clothes, change diapers, fix meals, are patient
with irritable children, and you can add to the
list; we can and do worship God. The important
part is our attitude in how we do our normal every
day things. Do we do our chores as drudgery or
do we live every moment of our life as a sacrifice
and praise offering to God? The Bible is full
of absolutes. 1 Corinthians 10:31 does not say
some of what you can do glorifies God, but whatever
you do. Absolutely everything. Before we get to
the second point, let me share one more verse
with you. “And the King will answer them,
“Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one
of the least of these my brothers, you did it
to me.” Matthew 25:40. When we go about
our everyday life giving to our children, spouses,
and co-workers and we do it in the power of the
Holy Spirit it is as if we are doing it unto Christ.
Does that change your perspective at all? My dear
CWM God sees all you do day in and day out and
he appreciates how you are taking care of the
children He gave you as a gift from Him. If you
feel no one else appreciates what you do, God
does. He sees all.
Now the second point I learned during my pity
party hurts a little bit. (God is stretching me
in so many ways.) In the book The
God You Can Know by Dan DeHaan, he asks this
question in talking about pride, “Do you
find yourself broken before Him? Are His interests
the major reason for your anger when they are
violated? Are His interests the major reason for
your joy when they are pursued? Or are your anger
and joy coming from what you accomplish, receive,
and get out of your own determined effort?”
As my children would say, Busted!! You see me
feeling unappreciated is all about me. I cannot
become more like Christ is if it is about me and
not Him. If I don’t have a proper view of
what I do around my home as a daily act of worship,
then my feelings will get hurt easily. Is it about
my children and husband, Yes but it is also about
me learning to worship and serve God in everything
Please don’t hear me saying ignore your
feelings or you have to be a martyr in your home.
What I am saying is whenever it is about me I
am failing on two levels. One level I am making
it about me and not God. As a Christian everything
is to glorify Him. More of Him and less of me.
My prayer is that Christ would be in me so much
that if I’m squeezed everything that comes
out of me is Christ. This is a process and doesn’t
happen overnight. (Believe me God is still working
on me day by day.) Secondly, if I’m discouraged
or frustrated I’m saying that God cannot
meet my needs or is not faithful. Closely related
to that is I don’t believe that God is sovereign
in my life even in the most difficult times. Both
of these ideas are sin and grieve a Holy God.
Finally, every day in my life has been ordained
from the beginning of time. God is in control
and knows what He is doing. I need to trust Him
for everything in my life.
So, dear CWM sisters in Christ let me tell you
I appreciate all you do and God sees everything
you do. Can I encourage you today to get alone
with God and ask Him to show you how every single
thing you do during the day can be an act of worship
and a way to glorify Him? Ask Him to show you
how. He will not disappoint.
As women we have to be careful
how our emotions can cloud our view of God and
others. If you are having a bad day emotionally
pray, read Scripture, and ask God for you to have
clear thinking about the situation.
Till next time,
Kimberly M. Chastain
Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is
the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed
Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author
of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks
and an online Bible study. To find out how to
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