July 2010 Pearls of Encouragement for CWMs
Hot enough for you?
Prayer partner needed
Article – Do you feel appreciated as a Mom?
Final thoughts

Hot enough for you?

Here in the United States we are having a heat wave in most places. We were going to the pool today, but it would be 97 degrees. The water isn’t very cold when it is 97 degrees, so we decided not to go. Now, I know in South Africa they are wearing winter coats right now. How do I know? We have been watching FIFA World Cup Soccer non-stop at my house. My son is a huge soccer fan. So, I hope where you live the weather is just right. If not, it will change soon. We have had lots of new CWMs added to our community recently. Welcome! You will find encouragement and support here. You can go to www.christianworkingmom.com to see all the many resources for you.

Prayer Partner needed

In our CWM community we have virtual prayer partners. How does that work? Two CWMs communicate by email and share prayer requests with one another. Then, you commit to pray and support one another. Some of our prayer partners have a partner who lives in another country from their own. Right now I have a request for a prayer partner and do not have anyone available. So, if you are willing to be a prayer partner or would like one send an email to Kimberly@kimberlychastain.com and put prayer partner in the subject heading and I will connect you with a prayer partner.


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Article – Do You Feel Appreciated as a Mom?

True confession time. This past week I felt really unappreciated as a Mom. You may say just this past week? I am a parent of a teenager and a soon to be teenager in a few months. Needless to say there are moods swings going rampant at my house and they are not just in my children!! Maybe it was my time for a pity party, but I really felt all I do is either unappreciated or unnoticed. My hunch is I’m not alone in this feeling. I remember when my children were babies with the sleepless nights, diaper changes, clothing changes for me and them and the seeming endless to do lists. Do what we do as a Mom matter and are we appreciated? YES!

I want to share with you two very important lessons I learned in my pity party. First of all what we do for our children, spouses, and others is an act of worship. Let’s look at two verses in the Bible that support this belief. “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” 1 Corinthians 10:31. The second verse, “I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.” Romans 12:1. You see when we wash clothes, change diapers, fix meals, are patient with irritable children, and you can add to the list; we can and do worship God. The important part is our attitude in how we do our normal every day things. Do we do our chores as drudgery or do we live every moment of our life as a sacrifice and praise offering to God? The Bible is full of absolutes. 1 Corinthians 10:31 does not say some of what you can do glorifies God, but whatever you do. Absolutely everything. Before we get to the second point, let me share one more verse with you. “And the King will answer them, “Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.” Matthew 25:40. When we go about our everyday life giving to our children, spouses, and co-workers and we do it in the power of the Holy Spirit it is as if we are doing it unto Christ. Does that change your perspective at all? My dear CWM God sees all you do day in and day out and he appreciates how you are taking care of the children He gave you as a gift from Him. If you feel no one else appreciates what you do, God does. He sees all.

Now the second point I learned during my pity party hurts a little bit. (God is stretching me in so many ways.) In the book The God You Can Know by Dan DeHaan, he asks this question in talking about pride, “Do you find yourself broken before Him? Are His interests the major reason for your anger when they are violated? Are His interests the major reason for your joy when they are pursued? Or are your anger and joy coming from what you accomplish, receive, and get out of your own determined effort?” As my children would say, Busted!! You see me feeling unappreciated is all about me. I cannot become more like Christ is if it is about me and not Him. If I don’t have a proper view of what I do around my home as a daily act of worship, then my feelings will get hurt easily. Is it about my children and husband, Yes but it is also about me learning to worship and serve God in everything I do.

Please don’t hear me saying ignore your feelings or you have to be a martyr in your home. What I am saying is whenever it is about me I am failing on two levels. One level I am making it about me and not God. As a Christian everything is to glorify Him. More of Him and less of me. My prayer is that Christ would be in me so much that if I’m squeezed everything that comes out of me is Christ. This is a process and doesn’t happen overnight. (Believe me God is still working on me day by day.) Secondly, if I’m discouraged or frustrated I’m saying that God cannot meet my needs or is not faithful. Closely related to that is I don’t believe that God is sovereign in my life even in the most difficult times. Both of these ideas are sin and grieve a Holy God. Finally, every day in my life has been ordained from the beginning of time. God is in control and knows what He is doing. I need to trust Him for everything in my life.

So, dear CWM sisters in Christ let me tell you I appreciate all you do and God sees everything you do. Can I encourage you today to get alone with God and ask Him to show you how every single thing you do during the day can be an act of worship and a way to glorify Him? Ask Him to show you how. He will not disappoint.

Final Thoughts

As women we have to be careful how our emotions can cloud our view of God and others. If you are having a bad day emotionally pray, read Scripture, and ask God for you to have clear thinking about the situation.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.