July 2013 CWM Interview

Welcome
Interview
Final Thoughts

 

The Voices of Christian Working Moms

Newly Released Book
written by
Author Kimberly Chastain

Welcome

CWMs are a wonderful group of women with lots of knowledge and insight to share with others. Many of you have shared that you enjoy hearing from other CWMs. I need more of you who are willing to be interviewed like Jessica was today. If you are willing to be interviewed send an email to Kimberly@kimberlychastain.com and put interview in the subject heading. Let’s see what Jessica has to share with us today.

Interview

Jessica is a married 30 year old CWM from the United States. She has 19 month old and 8 year old daughters. She is a Pathology Office Coordinator.

Jessica shares to me the joys of being a Christian Working Mom are lessons that I myself have learned in life. My father died suddenly when I was 18. My own mother has always been a working mom and I have seen her be able to take care of herself and advance in her career through the years. I find it so important to make sure that you have the skills to take care of yourself if you ever need to do so. I have seen this also in my marriage, as my husband has been diagnosed with degenerative disc disease, and had a complete heart block which led to him having a pacemaker put in place in Feb. of 2012. I have been on both sides; I stayed at home when my first daughter was born for over a year. I however, am now working full time. I feel like my daughters are watching me and the woman that I am becoming. I find joy in the workplace as much as I can and try to do things there that make it a little more fun too. I help with luncheons, Lab Week events, and sign up for extra committees to help keep my work day busy and help advance my career. I would say I definitely stay busy at work. I catch myself some days slipping into my depressed mode and then a coworker and I will laugh it off shortly thereafter. There is always something, or someone that can get a smile from me.

Jessica struggles as a Christian Working Mom in the following areas: Oh there are many. Guilt mostly. I feel guilty. I am tired when I get home, and I don’t always feel like they get the best part of me. But then I remind myself that I am helping to provide my girls with the things that they need. They may not have everything that they are ever going to want, but my paycheck will hopefully help give them what they need. Sunny beautiful days are the hardest. The days I want to be at the park, pool, or doing anything with my girls. Missing my 19 month olds cute little adventures every day, and seeing her cry when I leave. Breaks my heart. Feeling like SAHM’s have it easy or better. I guess you could say that I feel like I don’t fit in with them most times. I find it easier to talk to moms who work. I struggle with being content in my circumstances and understanding that God didn’t do this to me to hurt me. That this is His plan, and he will make all things beautiful in his time.


Favorite Bible Verse:

"Lord, you have assigned me my portion
and my cup; you have made my lot secure."
-Psalm 16:5

What is God teaching you right now?

So much. He is teaching me patience. He is teaching me to learn how to trust in him, not just when things are going my way, but all the time. He is teaching me that my book is already written….by him.

Words of Encouragement for other Christian Working Moms

Lord,
Help me to realize that you are in control and
that all circumstances are in your hands.
Help me to be grateful for all that you have given me.
Help me to lean on you and not worry about tomorrow.
Help me to know and to believe that you are
my provider and that you will take care of me.
Amen

- Calm My Anxious Heart by Linda Dillow

Anything else you would like to share:

"If we want to be women of contentment, we must choose to accept our portion, our assigned roles from God. We must make the choice to dwell on the positive aspects of our role in life. If we don't we'll be discontent, always wanting something different from what we've been given."
- Calm My Anxious Heart By Linda Dillow

Jessica, thanks so much for your wise words. My brother in law told his wife when they were engaged that she needed to learn to be a widow before being a wife, because his father died when he was in college.

Calm My Anxious Heart by Linda Dillow is one of my favorite books. I think all women deal with anxiety. There is also a study guide at the back of the book as well. It is a good book for small group studies.

Final Thoughts

God is sovereign in all areas of our lives. If you are going through a tough time right now, God can and will use it in the future. Trust that He can and will carry you through.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.