My son and I went shopping today. On the store shelves were back
to school supplies already. He wasn’t real happy to see them
and neither was I. The summer is flying by. Is there anything you
want to do with your children this summer before school starts back?
Make sure you plan time for fun.
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Article – Seasons in a CWMs Life
I have gotten several emails recently from CWMs sharing how hard
it is to manage everything in their lives and they always feel they
are dropping the ball in one area or another. If it is any consolation
I think that is true of every CWM and honestly Moms in general.
Life was less complicated when we didn’t have children (we
may not have thought so), but it was easier.
As a Mom we go through various seasons depending on the ages of
our children. During those seasons we may make different decisions
on how involved we are in activities outside work or even change
I want to give you permission to say No for a season, but not forever.
I think sometimes we think if we give something up for a season
we won’t ever do it again. For instance, my husband and I
were involved in a small group Bible study that met in our home
before having our daughter. Once we had our daughter we took a break
and were no longer involved in a small group. We realized we needed
some time to learn how to be parents and didn’t need any extra
commitments at that time.
When my children were babies-preschoolers we lessened what we did
outside the home. We would work in the nursery at church for our
assigned times, but we didn’t take on other duties. Once my
children were in upper elementary and middle school I began teaching
Sunday School on a weekly basis.
Also, I had a wise man tell me once that when your children are
babies and young you are physically exhausted and once they become
teenagers then it shifts to emotional exhaustion (there is more
to worry about). Each season of parenting has its own joys and struggles.
There are also different opportunities as well.
So, can a CWM or any Mom have it all, all of the time? Honestly,
I don’t think so. Of course, it depends on your definition
of having it all. I think it is important from time to time to evaluate
as a family whether there are any activities or responsibilities
that need to be cut. No matter how good the activity it may not
be the right season. Should our children be involved in more than
one sport or extra-curricular activity at a time? Does our family
really want to make the commitment to a travel sport team?
There is so much pressure from other parents to have your children
just as involved as their children. There is also pressure from
the church to be involved in so many activities that families have
little time to be together.
I want to encourage you to realize there are seasons in parenting
and it is okay to say No for a season. Pray and ask for wisdom from
God for what things you need to say Yes to and what you may need
to say No to as well.
Remember No is a complete sentence. Often, when we tell people No
we can’t do something we come up with an excuse for why we
can’t do the request. Then, the person quickly comes up with
a way to help you out. Let your Yes be Yes and your No be No.