Christian Working Mom Interview for June

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Interview

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Are you having a good summer? I always surprised every summer how I think it will be relaxed and my schedule gets filled so quickly. My challenge to you and myself is plan the must do things “fun things” you want to do this summer and put them on the calendar.

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Interview


Tina is a 38 year old married Christian Working Mom who lives in the United States. She has a son age 13 and a son age 4. Tina is a front office team leader in a pediatric night clinic.

Tina says the Joys of Being a Christian Working Mom are: I just recently got a job again after staying at home with my kids since I graduated college in 1991. I’ve worked seasonal retail and a part time job here and there, but I am really enjoying this part time job. It feels good to use my skills and talents pursuing something I enjoy. One other thing my job is doing for me right now, is just getting out of the house. We recently moved and I really haven’t met anyone with which I have connected. So this job IS my sanity right now. When I have too much time on my hands, I get down about the situation.

Tina shares the following struggles of being a Christian Working Mom: I still struggle with being away from home when I know my job is just part time and brings home only 6% of what my husband brings home. I really enjoy it, but don’t know if it is worth it. We need the extra money for tuition right now, until my husband’s next raise, so I will keep it at least that long. Also, I am working evenings 4 nights a week, so for those nights, after I pick up my oldest from school, we talk about his day, I cook supper and leave it on the stove. My husband comes home, I see him for 20 minutes, and then I’m off to work. I didn’t realize how much I would miss them just for those 4 hours.

Favorite Bible Verse: Right now it is 1 Thessalonians 5:18. After searching for God’s will in this recent move, I found it. Give thanks in all circumstances for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

Tina says God is teaching her the following things right now: Since this move, I’m in waiting mode (not my favorite). Waiting to fit in, in our new community. God accomplishes so many things in our lives when we are uncomfortable. But he always shows he is there. I knew this move would be a hard one because of something that happened shortly before we moved. I was on an airplane and reading the book, The Simple Faith of Mister Rogers, by Amy Hollingsworth. The author, herself, often turned to Fred Rogers for advice. She had just moved and was really having a hard time connecting in her new community. Fred’s advice was, “Just as it takes a tree a long time to begin to grow again once it’s transplanted, so you can give your healthy roots time to find the nourishment of your new soil in your new community.” I immediately began to cry because I knew that was just for me. God allows uncomfortable things in our lives, but walks with us through it.

Tina gives the following words of Encouragement for other Christian Working Moms: The world has its idea of how we, as women, should live. We should be able to work full-time at home, have a career, raise a family, and take care of aging parents, all at the same time, and do it all to perfection. But beware; the church has its own mold of what is success and what is not. Issues regarding home schooling, staying at home with the children, etc. Our children are God’s, on loan to us. We are to raise them to the best of our ability. But He is not dependent on us for the way they turn out. He is all powerful and capable of reaching our kids, with or without us! When that revelation, although simple it is, hit me recently, I was set free! No more guilt weighing me down. No more comparisons. My advice is to live in the freedom Christ offers, enjoy your family, listen to the Spirit to lead you, and don’t compare your family to others, either INSIDE or OUTSIDE the church!

Tina thanks so much for reminding us ultimately our children are not our own. I also appreciate the reminder not to compare ourselves to others. I think we as women are particularly prone to comparison. Thanks for taking time to share today, Tina.

Till next time,

Kimberly Chastain

Kimberly Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the founder of CWMU and author of 2 ebooks that can be found at www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to Kimberly@kimberlychastain.com with free coaching in the subject heading.