June 2008 Pearls of Encouragement for Christian Working Moms
Welcome
Prayer Partners
Blog/Online Bible Study
CWM Coaching Tips
Article – Honoring Fathers
Welcome

I survived!!! I shared with you if I could make it till May 30th I would be fine. My children are out of school and things have finally calmed down some. We have been to the pool a couple of times. Are you excited when the school year ends or a little sad? I know for some of our readers school is still in session. Enjoy doing something silly and fun with your children. Welcome and hugs to all our CWMs from all over the globe. May God be glorified through all you do.

One of my favorite songs right now is In Christ Alone. I can rarely sing that song without crying. If you like hearing old hymns sung to new melodies then you will like Avalon’s CD of favorite hymns. In Christ Alone is on that CD as well. To find our more click here.

Prayer Partners

Several of you responded to wanting a prayer partner and were matched. I have another CWM who would like a prayer partner. Prayer partners “meet” through email and share one another’s burdens. They agree to pray for one another. If you would like a prayer partner, send me an email to Kimberly@kimberlychastain.com and put prayer partner in the subject heading. Thanks in advance.

Blog/Online Bible Study

The CWM blog is at http://christianworkingmoms.blogspot.com. I know a lot of you visit, but don’t post. Please come and share your thoughts and concerns. I recently posted a question about what you like to do during the summer break. Share your fun ideas with all of us. The CWM Bible study can be found at http://cwmbiblestudy.blogspot.com.


Coaching Tips

CWM Coaching Tips are tips that you can receive daily to help you in your walk with God. We look in-depth at one verse a week and memorize it as well. Learn how to deepen your walk with God on a daily basis. To find out more go to: http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm.

Article – Honoring Fathers

In June we celebrate fathers on Father’s Day. Even though we are a community of Moms we can’t forget the Dads. Some of you have Dads in the home and some do not. All of us have Dads whether they are still on this earth or not. So, this month I want us to focus on Dads. One of the reasons I’m doing this is I think for the most part Dads are ignored more than Moms. Dads in the media are often portrayed as ignorant or bumbling buffoons. You rarely see a Dad portrayed in an honorable way. Also, when women get together they have a habit of putting down their husbands and their husbands as fathers.

Christian men and non-Christian Dads as well need encouragement.
God has high expectations for fathers and how they are to lead their children. So, what can we do to encourage the Dads in our lives?

1. If your father is still living write him a letter and thank him for all
the things he has done for you. Even if you had a difficult relationship with your father you can probably think of one thing to thank him for and let him know. When I worked as a camp counselor while in college I wrote my Dad a letter and thanked him for what he had done in my life. When my father died and I was going through his things I found my letter in a jewelry chest. He had kept that letter for over 20 years.

2. Look for opportunities to catch your children’s father doing
“Dad” things with your children and praise him. Most Moms
don’t wrestle with kids on the floor, but Dads do. Let your
children’s Dad know that you appreciate those things.

3. Sing praises about your children’s father in front of other
people. Let him hear you say things he does well.

4. Pray for your children’s father and that he would be the man
God would have him be.

5. Don’t try to compete with your children’s father to gain the
affection or approval of your children. Your children need
to learn from both parents.

6. Do not criticize a Dad in front of your children or others.
If you need to discuss something do it out of the child’s
hearing.

7. Do your best as a Christian woman to not join in the male
bashing sessions with other women. We are to uplift
one another and not tear down.

8. Teach your children to respect their father even if that is
hard. Do your best not to speak ill of him even if that
is all you can think of. Children need to make their own
decision about a relationship with their father not have
the mother make it for them.

9. If you are in a situation where your children’s father is
absent try to surround yourself with Godly families where
your children can get a male influence. Maybe a retired
Godly man who will take your children under his wing.

10. Remember most of us get our views of God by how our
earthly father related to us. Encourage men around you to
reflect God and his glory in their relationships with children.

In closing, fathers are very important in our children’s lives. We need
to encourage that relationship and not do anything to tear it down. If that relationship is not an option then search out Godly men to love your children. The church is a body of believers that meets one another’s needs. So, encourage a Dad today by giving him a good work and a thank you.


Final Thoughts

I learned a long time ago that Dads do things different from Moms and that is okay. There is more than one way to do things. So, loosen up a little and let Dads do things their way.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. You can find more information about Christian Working Moms at www.christianworkingmom.com For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.