June 2011 Pearls of Encouragement for CWMs
Welcome
Article – The Top Secret CWM Guilt
Final Thoughts


Welcome

 

The Voices of Christian Working Moms

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written by
Author Kimberly Chastain

Yeah, my family made it to summer vacation!! We survived 7th grade and 11th grade. I tell you it was a tough year, but we made it. I think both of my children and my family learned the tough lesson of perseverance this year. It is not an easy lesson, but an important life lesson. I’m curious what life lessons is your family learning in your life right now? Please share your thoughts at the CWM blog, http://christianworkingmoms.blogspot.com. Welcome to all our new CWM subscribers. May God use this website and the Godly women here to encourage you in your walk with Christ.

Article – The Top Secret CWM Guilt

There is the standard CWM Guilt often heaped upon CWMs from others and ourselves about “good” Christian Moms do not work outside the home. That is why www.christianworkingmom.com was developed and was designed to be a voice speaking in the wilderness about the needs of CWMs as well in the church and not just stay at home Moms.

Yet, there is even a more secret CWM guilt that is rarely discussed. I often get an email or phone call in “hushed” tones saying, “You know Kimberly, I actually like working and enjoy my job! That makes me feel guilty as well.” So, then there is the guilt from just working and added upon that guilt is a CWM who feels fulfilled in her job and enjoys what she is doing. What to do?

First, of all I think it is wonderful when I hear from a CWM who loves her job. I think that makes working much easier. Also, these CWMs are using the gifts God has given them. Secondly, I see their work as an act of worship. How can that be? My motto verse for CWM is 1 Corinthians 10:31, “So, whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” Anything can be an act of worship including changing diapers, doing laundry, or working in an office. Christians in the 1600’s and even back in Jesus day got this concept much more than we do. They truly saw everything they did involved Jesus. Those Christian lived and believed that you can literally pray without ceasing. Meaning you can have an ongoing dialogue throughout the day with Christ. You can live, sleep, eat, and breathe Christ in all you do.

Somewhere in the 20th century there became this dichotomy that there was sacred work and secular work. Those who did sacred work went to seminaries and became pastors or missionaries. The rest of us settled for second best and did secular work. The problem with this thinking is that you can find no evidence in Scripture to back it up. We don’t get to choose which part of ourselves our sacred and which are secular. All of our lives and what we do with our lives are to be sacred and a fragrant offering to our Heavenly Father.

So, is there anything wrong with enjoying your work as a CWM? Absolutely not! Your work, your gifts, and your skills can be offered up God as a sacred act of worship.

Now the tough question what if you don’t like your job and you are just enduring it? Listen to what Paul told slaves during Jesus time (I doubt any of us are slave even though we may feel we are): “Slaves, obey your earthly masters with respect and fear, and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ. Obey them not only to win their favor when their eye is on you, but like slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from your heart. Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not men, because you know that the Lord will reward everyone for whatever good he does, whether he is slave or free. And master, treat your slaves in the same way. Do not threaten them, since you know that he who is both their Master and yours is in heaven, and there is no favoritism with him. Ephesians 6:5-9.

If you truly hate your job realize you are working for Christ ultimately and not your boss. Do an experiment and see how that changes your attitude. Also, pray for God’s direction in whether you should seek another job or if He would have you stay where you are. You don’t realize what a shining light you can be if you work in a terrible work situation and others see you working with a good attitude as unto the Lord. Believe me I know it is not easy, but it can be done through Christ strength and not our own.

So, whether you love your work or hate it can I encourage you today to work as unto the Lord. Make your work an act of worship. One final point if you do enjoy your job lose the guilt about enjoying your job. It is false guilt and needs to be done away with in your heart and mind.

Final Thoughts

Take an honest look at the things you feel guilty about in your life. Is it honest guilt brought on by sin and needs to be confessed or is it false guilt placed on by yourself or others? God convicts of sin, but does not condemn us. There is a huge difference between the two.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.