Yeah, my family made it to summer vacation!! We survived 7th grade
and 11th grade. I tell you it was a tough year, but we made it.
I think both of my children and my family learned the tough lesson
of perseverance this year. It is not an easy lesson, but an important
life lesson. I’m curious what life lessons is your family
learning in your life right now? Please share your thoughts at the
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Article – The Top Secret CWM Guilt
There is the standard CWM Guilt often heaped upon CWMs from others
and ourselves about “good” Christian Moms do not work
outside the home. That is why www.christianworkingmom.com
was developed and was designed to be a voice speaking in the wilderness
about the needs of CWMs as well in the church and not just stay
at home Moms.
Yet, there is even a more secret CWM guilt that is rarely discussed.
I often get an email or phone call in “hushed” tones
saying, “You know Kimberly, I actually like working and enjoy
my job! That makes me feel guilty as well.” So, then there
is the guilt from just working and added upon that guilt is a CWM
who feels fulfilled in her job and enjoys what she is doing. What
First, of all I think it is wonderful when I hear from a CWM who
loves her job. I think that makes working much easier. Also, these
CWMs are using the gifts God has given them. Secondly, I see their
work as an act of worship. How can that be? My motto verse for CWM
is 1 Corinthians 10:31, “So, whether you eat or drink or whatever
you do, do it all for the glory of God.” Anything can be an
act of worship including changing diapers, doing laundry, or working
in an office. Christians in the 1600’s and even back in Jesus
day got this concept much more than we do. They truly saw everything
they did involved Jesus. Those Christian lived and believed that
you can literally pray without ceasing. Meaning you can have an
ongoing dialogue throughout the day with Christ. You can live, sleep,
eat, and breathe Christ in all you do.
Somewhere in the 20th century there became this dichotomy that
there was sacred work and secular work. Those who did sacred work
went to seminaries and became pastors or missionaries. The rest
of us settled for second best and did secular work. The problem
with this thinking is that you can find no evidence in Scripture
to back it up. We don’t get to choose which part of ourselves
our sacred and which are secular. All of our lives and what we do
with our lives are to be sacred and a fragrant offering to our Heavenly
So, is there anything wrong with enjoying your work as a CWM? Absolutely
not! Your work, your gifts, and your skills can be offered up God
as a sacred act of worship.
Now the tough question what if you don’t like your job and
you are just enduring it? Listen to what Paul told slaves during
Jesus time (I doubt any of us are slave even though we may feel
we are): “Slaves, obey your earthly masters with respect and
fear, and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ.
Obey them not only to win their favor when their eye is on you,
but like slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from your heart.
Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not men,
because you know that the Lord will reward everyone for whatever
good he does, whether he is slave or free. And master, treat your
slaves in the same way. Do not threaten them, since you know that
he who is both their Master and yours is in heaven, and there is
no favoritism with him. Ephesians 6:5-9.
If you truly hate your job realize you are working for Christ ultimately
and not your boss. Do an experiment and see how that changes your
attitude. Also, pray for God’s direction in whether you should
seek another job or if He would have you stay where you are. You
don’t realize what a shining light you can be if you work
in a terrible work situation and others see you working with a good
attitude as unto the Lord. Believe me I know it is not easy, but
it can be done through Christ strength and not our own.
So, whether you love your work or hate it can I encourage you
today to work as unto the Lord. Make your work an act of worship.
One final point if you do enjoy your job lose the guilt about enjoying
your job. It is false guilt and needs to be done away with in your
heart and mind.
Take an honest look at the things you feel guilty about in your
life. Is it honest guilt brought on by sin and needs to be confessed
or is it false guilt placed on by yourself or others? God convicts
of sin, but does not condemn us. There is a huge difference between
Till next time,
Kimberly M. Chastain
Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working
Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the
author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an
online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by
email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm.
To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com.
For a free, initial coaching session send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.