I always enjoy CWMs sharing their stories and this is one of the
neat things about our CWM community. I need your help. I need more
CWMs to interview. If you are interested in being interviewed by
email, please send an email to Kimberly@kimberlychastain.com
and put interview in the subject heading. I will then send you the
questions. I appreciate Deb sharing this month.
If you enjoy Pearls of Encouragement for CWMs and the interview
each month tell a sister CWM. Our community is always open to more
CWMs. It means so much to know you are not alone.
Deb is 46 year old married CWM who lives in the United States.
She has two boys ages 7 and 4. Deb is a software/data developer.
Deb shares her joys in being a Christian Working Mom: I feel God
has a reason for me to be a working mom. While hard to leave my
kids, my job does give me a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment
outside of the home. I take my Faith with me and am able to be the
hands and feet of Jesus in the unsaved workplace. My job provides
the benefits and insurance for our family, so in turn I am also
a blessing to them by working outside of the home.
Deb struggles as being a Christian Working Mom in the following
areas: I struggle with the lack of time. It seems that things are
always rushed trying to get homework, dinner, sports, baths etc
all done in only a few precious hours each night.
The other is being excluded for being a working mom. I was once
asked to be on a prayer team for praying over our kids and their
school. This was something I was really excited about, but in the
end I was turned away because the group decided it was more convenient
to meet during the day on a week day. Also, most moms groups, both
in the community and church, meet during the day on a week day.
I realize that is the most convenient time for stay-at-home moms,
but it does feel excluding.
Favorite Bible Verse: Isaiah 40:31
But those who hope in the LORD
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint.
When I feel rushed and overwhelmed, this verse always gives me
strength to go on. I know that when I put my Hope in the Lord, he
will see me through.
What is God teaching you right now?
To put 100% of my trust in him. It has been a year of hardship
in a lot of areas. The Lord has taught me to TRUST in Him, to surrender
it all to Him. He has amazingly and beautifully provided.
Words of Encouragement for other Christian Working Moms:
This is just a season. One day the children will be grown. All
of your balancing and hard work now will be rewarded. You will have
the satisfaction of knowing you made a difference both in the world
through your workplace and in the lives of your children.
Anything else you would like to share:
It has so often been said that the hardest job in the world is
being a stay-at-home mom. I disagree. I believe the hardest job
is being a working mom. Taking on the stresses of the workplace
each day and then in the few hours you have each night and on your
weekends you do all the same things that the stay-at-home mom does.
You still do the dishes, laundry and housecleaning. You still schedule
all the doctor and dentist appointments, play dates and family functions.
You still make it to the games, concerts and events. ALL moms work
hard at doing the best for their families, but I think working moms
have just a little bit more Super Hero in them.
Deb, maybe we should design capes for CWMs? I agree all Moms work
hard. We need to give each other a hug and encourage one another
not tear one another down.
Do your best to find your children doing things well and comment
on those activities and characteristics. Sometimes it seems like
most of our talk with children is about things they need to do (i.e.,
clean your room, do your homework). Make sure positive comments
outweigh the negative ones.
Till next time,
Kimberly M. Chastain
Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working
Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the
author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an
online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by
email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm.
To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com.
For a free, initial coaching session send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.