March 2009 Pearls of Encouragement for CWMs
Welcome
CWM Coaching Tips
CWM Blog/Online Bible Study
Article – Do You Feel Inferior as a Mom?
Welcome
I apologize for getting the March issue out a little late this month. We had a flu like virus that hit our family and we all got some of it. Needless to say I’m behind. We are all feeling better now. I hope your family has stayed healthy. Welcome to all the new CWMs who have joined our community. Make sure to check out www.christianworkingmom.com for many opportunities to participate. If you want to read previous issues of Pearls of Encouragement for CWMs go to: http://www.kimberlychastain.com/newsletters/archives.htm.
CWM Coaching Tips

I know as a Mom it is often hard to find time to study God’s Word or spend time with him. Check out CWM Coaching Tips and have an email devotional mailed to your inbox daily. To find out more go to: http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm.

CWM Blog/Online Bible Study

Are you experiencing difficult times financially? Maybe we can share tips as a group of ways you try to save money during these tough economic times. Share your tips on the CWM Blog at: http://christianworkingmoms.blogspot.com. We can help one another out.

After reading this month’s article, share what your ideas of a “good” Mom are at the blog as well.

The Online CWM Bible Study can be found at: http://cwmbiblestudy.blogspot.com.

Article – Do You Feel Inferior as a Mom?

Do you find yourself comparing yourself to other Moms and coming up short? As much as we don’t want to admit it I think we do. Often it happens when your children come home and share what another Mom does that you don’t do.

What exactly is a “good” Mom anyway? Is it one who cooks everything from scratch? Is it one who sews? Is it one who lets her children stay up late? Often, it is whatever you think you don’t do well. I think it would be very hard to come up with a definition of a “good” Mom.

Yet, as CWMs are definition will be somewhat different. I love the Psalms and how the psalmist describes us and our relationship with God. Psalm 139:13-16 says, “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days were ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.”

First, of all we are created in the image of God and he made us the Mom that we are. He gave us our personality and our special attributes. We are created in his image. So, when we feel inferior ultimately we are complaining about our Creator and how he made us.

Second, as CWMs being a “good” Mom means showing and telling our children about their Heavenly Father and about Christ work on the cross on our behalf. You see whether we cook at home or eat out, sew or buy clothes, (the list could go on), none of that matters if we don’t point our children to a saving relationship with Jesus Christ. There are eternal consequences to accepting or rejecting Christ.

Now let me be clear Christ draws us to Himself and calls us lovingly into a relationship with Him. Ultimately, Christ does the calling and the saving. Still we have a responsibility to share Christ with our children. We need to tell them that being a child of Christ means we don’t do things that “everybody” else is doing. As Christians we will be a peculiar people and made fun of at times, because of whom we serve. Jesus was spat on and despised by men, why should we think we would be treated any differently.

As I close, let me tell you when you feel inferior as a Mom that often is Satan attacking making you feel you are a failure. Are we perfect as Moms? Absolutely not. That is why we and our children need a Savior. I want us to realize the world wants us to focus on earthly comparisons and as Christians we have a heavenly, eternal focus. We are going to have different goals for our children than non-Christians. May we teach our children to focus on God and his ways.

Don’t forget your heavenly Father made you for a purpose. That purpose is to glorify Him in everything you do. So, glorify Him as you parent your precious gifts from God.

Final Thoughts

Take some time today to think about what you do well as a Mom. Thank God for giving you that characteristic and give Him the glory.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. You can find more information about Christian Working Moms at www.christianworkingmom.com For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.