March 2012 CWM Interview
Welcome
Interview
Final Thoughts

 

The Voices of Christian Working Moms

Newly Released Book
written by
Author Kimberly Chastain

Welcome

Spring has arrived early in the Southeastern United States or maybe I should say summer. We are consistently seeing temperatures over 80 degrees. We skipped winter this year. I do hope wherever you are you take time out of your day to enjoy God’s wonderful creation. He is an amazing artist.

Children easily appreciate and enjoy God’s creation. You can see them observe a little ant or bug. They also give us those wonderful dandelion bouquets. We can learn a lot from our children about how to worship God and His creation.

Interview

I appreciate Lori taking time to share with us today. Lori is a married 42 year old CWM who lives in the United States. She is a Database analyst. She has two girls ages 10 and 9.

Lori enjoys being a CWM in the following ways: I’m in a job that I really enjoy and is a good fit with my gifts and abilities. I have a lot of flexibility in terms of time off for when my kids are sick or they have school events. I like having something that’s “for me”, where I have an identity in addition to being a wife and mom. I’m helping my husband provide for our family, so he doesn’t have to work extra and he can be around home more. I’m putting money into retirement so that my girls aren’t scrambling to come up with money to take care of me. And I am being a role model for my girls. I want them to know that they can be anything they want when they grow up, whether it’s a teacher, doctor, veterinarian, lawyer, or even president of the USA.

Lori struggles as a CWM in these ways: I would have to say my biggest struggle is dealing with people's judgmental attitude towards women who work outside the home, especially women who work outside the home by choice. I'm one of those women who WANT to work and have a career and a family. It seems like it's acceptable for a mother to work outside the home when the finances warrant it or when a woman is a single mom. But how about women who have an interest in a career outside the home?

I have a degree in math and I'm good in that area. It is a talent that God has given me and I'm using it. God wants us to use our talents, not stifle them. Not everyone is cut out to sell Mary Kay, Pampered Chef, or run a daycare in their home. I can't tell you how many times I've been to parenting message boards, looking for support for a parenting issue, and people making hurtful remarks that working moms aren't raising their kids, taking care of their families, etc. I went to one message board where one person had said "working moms aren't taking care of their kids, so don't expect them to take care of you when you need it." But I work so that I can put money into retirement, so that my kids don't HAVE to take care of me, so that they can enjoy their lives instead. Besides, how about the Proverbs 31 woman? Didn't she do a little bit of everything? We ARE raising our kids, and I wish others would understand that.

Lori’s favorite Bible verse is Romans 8:38-39, “For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things t come, nor power, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creations, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

What is God teaching you right now?

I’m learning a lot about forgiveness and letting go of the past, not necessarily in terms of being a working mom, but in other areas of my life. Working on some of these areas will make me a better mother.

Words of Encouragement for other Christian Working Moms
Hang in there, get help when you need it instead of trying to do it all yourself. Develop a hobby, too, where you can get outside the house. Mine is scrapbooking, and it’s always good to have girlfriend time with my scrapbooking friends. Don’t let people judge you for your choice to work outside the home, no matter what the reason. Those decisions are between you and your family and you have to make the best decision for all of you. Use your talents, not stifle them.

Anything else you would like to share: I’m on Facebook at www.facebook.com/llwasson. I’d love to talk to you.

Thanks Lori for your encouragement to use our talents. Sometimes as CWMs there doesn’t seem to be enough time to do everything. God did give us talents to use for His glory.

Final Thoughts

I can’t remember how long I have been doing CWM newsletters, but it is about 10 years maybe a little more or a little less. My prayer has been during that time CWMs can find some support and encouragement. As Lori has shared there continues to be people who want to discourage CWMs and working Moms in general. May we as CWMs have the kinder, more encouraging tongue and be known for uplifting others not tearing down.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.