May 2010 Pearls of Encouragement
Article – Does Life Balance every really
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Article – Does life balance
every really happen?
Recently, on one of the CWM surveys
a CWM shared how she always feels she is not 100%
efficient where she is at the moment. For instance,
at work she is thinking about home and when at
home she is thinking about work. I have had other
CWMs say how do you keep all the balls in the
air without any of them falling?
Can I be honest with you? Perfect life balance
does not happen on this side of heaven. Feeling
like you can’t manage all the balls in the
air is a normal feeling. Can we manage it so it
is not as stressful? Yes. Can we manage it perfectly
every day? No.
One of the reasons our balls come crashing down
is the unexpected. I can have a perfectly scheduled
day with a great to do list and then one of my
children calls from school and he/she is sick.
My perfectly (ha!ha!) tuned schedule changes when
an after school baseball practice has been changed.
The unexpected happens almost every day and can
throw a really tight schedule off in no time.
Do I have any hope? First, let me say I do think
things get a little better the longer you are
a Mom and when your children get older. I really
want to reassure you that the “I’m
never get anything done completely feeling”
is a normal feeling. I know we don’t like
So, what is the answer? We need to work very hard
at being in the moment. Work on the task that
is in front of you at this very moment. If you
are working on a project at work focus on that,
if you are playing a game with your child don’t
think about work. I know this is easier said than
done. Most women are planners. Often, we are looking
2 days down the road or 3 weeks down the road.
Truly, try to focus on the task at hand and don’t
multi-task. I know we Moms are the Queens of multi-tasking.
Sometimes, multi-tasking can make us less efficient.
So, try to focus on one thing at a time as best
as you can.
Also, prayer is so important and should be the
start of every day. Specifically, pray that God
will guide your day, your interruptions, and what
He has planned for you this day. Ask God to give
you wisdom about learning to say No to things
that take up too much of your time. Ask Him to
give you peace when you feel harried.
One thing I’m learning in my own quiet times
right now is learning to worship God. Just spend
time worshipping Him. A book I’m reading
about worship is called Satisfy
My Thirsty Soul. Linda Dillow, the author,
recommends you pray the ABCs of God. Meaning you
say a prayer beginning with A and list all the
attributes of God with each letter of the alphabet.
You have to be a little creative when you get
to X. I have found the more I focus on God and
worshipping Him the better able I am to handle
the dropped balls and the unplanned emergencies.
So, will we ever achieve perfect home/work balance?
I don’t think so this side of heaven. We
can be intentional on how we spend our time. We
can choose to not allow work to creep in on our
home time. We can be highly efficient at work
so we can get home on time and enjoy our children.
Ask God to show you how to manage all that is
on your plate. He knows what tomorrow holds and
He is waiting there to help you with whatever
comes your way.
Remember to laugh each day. Laughter is good for
Till next time,
Kimberly M. Chastain
Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is
the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed
Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author
of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks
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