May 2014 Pearls of Encouragement for CWMs
Welcome
Article – Our Children’s Salvation
Final Thoughts


 

The Voices of Christian Working Moms

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Author Kimberly Chastain

Welcome

May I wish all CWMs a very belated Mother’s Day. I hope you were celebrated and received some of those wonderful homemade cards. My son surprised me by getting one that was all in Spanish. He is taking Spanish this year. Thankfully, both he and his sister were able to translate for me.

I also must apologize for getting this month’s email newsletter out so late. Several reasons for my tardiness include travel out of state and just numerous life events coming up. I have also noticed over the years when I have a newsletter coming out late it is often due to something God is teaching me. He has lessons for me and sometimes wants me to share them with others. Hopefully, you will understand after you read this month’s article.

Article – Our Children’s Salvation ..........Forward To A Friend

As a Christian the most precious gift we will ever receive is the gift of salvation from Jesus Christ. It is a free gift, but also the most costly gift we will ever receive. There should not be a day that goes by that we are not gloriously thankful for what Christ did for us on the cross. The second greatest gift would be seeing our children come to a saving knowledge of Christ. Nothing could make a Mom happier or more at peace. Yet, I fear we often see children make a decision for Christ based on parent pressure, peer pressure, pastor pressure, or many other pressures as well. We so desperately want our children to know Christ that often we may force them to make a decision before they are ready.

I am currently reading God Is the Gospel by John Piper. It is an excellent book that has opened my eyes so much. Listen to this quote from his book, “One of my main concerns in writing this book is that many people profess faith in Christ in this way (previous paragraph in book). It is not a faith founded on the glory of Christ himself but on tradition or education or other people’s opinion.” p. 82-83. My husband teaches on a college campus and he sees many students who were “raised” in the church, made a decision for Christ and there is no fruit whatsoever or evidence that these students are Christians. The students checked a box, walked an aisle, got their get out of hell card and they are done with growing as a Christian. Sisters in Christ, only God knows if they are Christians or not, but if there is no fruit then we have to wonder if a true decision was made.

So, how can we know our children made a personal decision for Christ or how can we keep from pushing them before they are ready. Here are some thoughts:

  1. What happens when your child faces trials? I still vividly remember telling a Mom friend of mine how happy I was for her when her child made a decision for Christ. She immediately said, “Let’s wait and see what she does when the tough times come then we will know if it is real.” I was taken aback, but she was so correct. When trials come even as a child who does your child turn to for help?
  2. When your child makes or wants to make a decision for Christ are they aware of their sin. As a 7 year old you haven’t robbed banks yet or any of the “big” sins, but does he/she realize they commit sins and God does not tolerate any sin in His presence. Is there sorrow for their sin?
  3. Are they making this decision, because a good friend, sibling, or someone else has walked the aisle? Did they hear a sermon about hell and are afraid? Yes, we should be afraid of hell, but becoming a Christian means a total life change not a one-time decision and you keep doing the same things.
  4. Are they willing to be different? Jesus says the world hated me don’t be surprised when the world hates you. No one likes being different. In this increasingly evil world, Christians are standing out as being very different, weird, fundamental, or you fill in the blank with your favorite negative word. It is not easy standing alone. We have to teach our children how to stand firm even if they are the only one.
  5. As a parent pray for wisdom and for the Holy Spirit to let you know if your child is beginning the process of making a decision for Jesus or is ready to make the final commitment? Do not rush the process.
  6. When your child does make a decision for Christ have them write down in their Bible or on a piece of paper the day they made the decision and what they were thinking or feeling. It will be so reassuring for them to read that in the future years if they begin to doubt their faith.
  7. Belief and faith in Christ is not a feeling it is concrete truth. So many times people may think they are not Christians, because their coming to Christ was not full of emotions or this amazing experience. God works in quiet ways as well as loud ways. Be still and know that I am God is a powerful verse to always remember in our time with the Lord.
  8. Have other people talk with your children as well about their decision for Christ. It might be a Sunday School teacher or a pastor. We did that with both of our children to make sure other people were hearing the right things and we were not hearing just what we wanted to hear.
  9. As your children grow look for evidence of fruit in their life. Are they perfect? No. Are we perfect? No. Yet, do you see over the years they are seeking the things of God or are they just going through the motions. Do you see fruit? Do they have aheart for Christ and for others? Do they have a heart for their friends who do not know Christ?
  10. Pray that your child will never have a day that they did not hear of or know of Christ. Begin praying for them as babies and don’t stop praying for them. Pray that God will help you guide them to a saving knowledge of Him.

I still remember as a child once I made a decision for Christ, one of the deacons came to my house and said the two most important decisions you will ever make in your life is becoming a Christian and who you will marry. That was only 42-43 years ago and I have not forgotten the conversation. The deacon was absolutely right. As a Christian Mom there is absolutely nothing more important that pointing our children to Christ and praying for them all of their lives. May we all be known as prayer warriors for our children and husbands. Prayers are eternal and they may be answered long after we are rejoicing in heaven with our Savior.

Final Thoughts

My daughter is 19 and my son is 16 and prayers don’t stop for them now. If anything the prayers are about huge life decisions and boy do I need God’s wisdom in what to say and do. I’m so thankful for God and that He answers the prayers of His children. Don’t ever stop praying for your children no matter how old they are. My 81 year old Mom still prays for me. What a gift and I want to keep that gift going forward to the next generation.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.