May 2015 Pearls of Encouragement for CWMs
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April has just flown by and now we are in May. We have arrived at the end of the school year crunch for students and teachers. I’m always amazed how many events you have to attend at the end of school. Keep the calendars ready. I know when I had babies and preschoolers I thought I was busy, but you definitely spend more time in the car as your children get older. Welcome too many new CWM sisters in Christ who have joined us. We are glad you have joined us.

I hope you have a wonderful Mother’s Day and receive some special homemade cards. Don’t ever forget that everything you do for your children is an act of worship to our Heavenly Father!

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Article – Is Church another thing on your to do list?

I was reading an article on Facebook about how difficult it is to attend church once you have children. The author talked about how the church is competing with children’s sports, tutoring for SAT, and many more things. Often the church is losing out and it just doesn’t fit into a family’s schedule. I meant to comment on the article, but did not get around to posting.

The trouble I had with this article is that children’s sports, tutoring, and other activities were equated as being on the same level as going to church. Going to church was just one more activity on your to do list that is just as important as the others. This couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Let me admit when you have babies and preschoolers getting to church can be a herculean effort and staying home seems oh so easy. I can’t tell you how many times we had a diaper blow out right before church or someone decided to spit up all over my dress. The devil works overtime on Sundays. When your children get a little older they may say, “Do we have to go?” I have heard parents of adolescents who now drive said, “Well we can’t make them go to church.” To that I say, “If you are under my roof you will be going with me to church and you will ride with the family no matter how embarrassing that might be.”

Here is the issue, our Christian walk and attending worship needs to be the top priority on our to do list, not one of many. We are teaching our children every Sunday what we value and what we don’t value. Having the opportunity to go worship with fellow believers is a gift we need to treasure. It is very important for our children to be involved in the body of Christ and see ages from babies to the senior citizens who are still coming on their walkers. Our children need to see the body of Christ celebrate baby dedications, new followers of Christ, weddings and funeral. Yes, funerals of believers are a celebration. Church is not optional and should never be superseded by sports or other activities.

We were told that our son really needed to join a traveling soccer team. I asked when the games were and was told they were on the weekends. Some of the games would be on Sundays. I immediately said we don’t play games on Sundays. I was then told how my son would not advance in soccer due to him not being on the travel team. It really didn’t matter. Can I give a word of advice, since I’m an “old” CWM? Most kids who do travel sports of any kind do not end up with fabulous college scholarships. I have seen very few get a scholarship and if they do it is a small one. Travel teams are just not worth it.

I’m reading an excellent book entitled, “Ordinary” by Michael Horton. The subtitle is, “Your life was meant to be ordinary, not radical.” He does an excellent job of talking about the daily tasks we do day in and day out in our homes, work place, and church. He talks about how this is where God works. We think we are not doing enough for Christ, but every day we take care of our children, our homes, and our families we are worshipping God. Going to church every Sunday with your children, whether you feel like it or not, whether you like the music or not, whether you liked the sermon or not; is a testimony to being faithful to Christ over all the years. Dr. Horton has a great few pages on working Moms as well. He states society and Moms have put unreachable expectations on all Moms. Is it always exciting to go to church every week? “No.” Our entertainment culture has infiltrated the church. Worship is not to be a production it is a time to glorify our heavenly father and gather with our fellow saints.

Is it always easy to be faithful every Sunday? No. I remember getting back from a band competition for my daughter at 2:00am on a Sunday morning and getting up in a few hours to teach Sunday School. We let our children know a late Saturday night does not exempt us from our commitment to worship on Sunday.

I know some of you out there may think I’m trying to put you on a guilt trip or be legalistic. Please know that is never my desire or aim. We have guilt coming at us from all directions. Our society and world is becoming increasingly hostile to Christianity. If our children are not grounded in their faith they will walk away from their faith as early as the teen years. Often our actions week in and week out show what is important to our family. Are sports and other activities more important than ministering to those around us? How will your children learn to care for others? Will the focus always be on them and their needs or can we show them to love others.

I remember once my son had not got something signed for school and his teacher asked what was going on. He said, “I’m sorry my Mom hasn’t had time to sign it. Someone in her Sunday’s school class spouse died and she has been with her.” I’m not saying that to brag. I’m just saying my son saw that I was busy ministering to a dear friend and the form could wait.

Please be intentional when it comes to your children and teaching them the foundations of our faith. It is not the churches’ responsibility alone. God gives that responsibility to us as parents. In the “old” days children were taught the catechism. Some churches do that today, but it is rare. What is a catechism? It is a list of questions and answers that explain the basic doctrines of our faith. Here is an example of one for younger children: http://www.reformed.org/documents/index.html?mainframe=http://www.reformed.org/documents/cat_for_young_children.html. I wonder how many adults could answer those questions.

In closing, I know we are all overscheduled and frazzled at times. When taking a hard look at your schedule make sure that attending church and teaching your children about God are a top priority.

Final Thoughts

Young children learn so much easier and quicker than we do. Start a family tradition of memorizing one verse of Scripture a week as a family. God’s Word will not return void. Scriptures I memorized as a child are burned into my heart. Years later I am learning the depth and richness of memorized Bible verses. There is no down side to hiding God’s Word in our heart.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.