November CWM Interview

 

The Voices of Christian Working Moms

Newly Released Book
written by
Author Kimberly Chastain

November CWM Interview

One of the many blessings of the CWM community has been getting to know CWMs over the years and watching them grow in their walk with God and acceptance of being a CWM. This month we have a special treat. Kate had been interviewed several years ago and now she gives us an update. I hope you learn from her walk as a CWM.

Kate is a married 43 year old CWM who lives in the United States. She has a daughter age 13. Kate is a professional communicator.

Let’s listen to what Kate has to say. I have been interviewed before, some years back. I didn’t save my own interview, so I don’t know exactly what I said, but I’m sure that some of what I say now is stuff I said earlier, and some is new.

God has been teaching me as a working mother that he sees the big picture that I do not see, and that he is using all things for good in my life. I knew it was rebellious of me, but for years I was angry and bitter about having to be a working mom when I so wanted to stay home with my child. I knew even then that God was using my situation to shape me as a person. My having to work gave me a heart for other working moms that I might not have had if I had been able to stay home. I also have been forced to confront the “excess” in my life, to prune my life, so to speak, in ways I might not have if I had stayed home. I can’t claim I live a perfectly simple life, completely focused on God, but he has used the stresses I face to focus my eyes on him and show me the need to “throw off everything that hinders.”

Things really hit home a couple of years ago, when my husband was going through a long-term bout of unemployment. This was his fifth time of unemployment since our daughter had been born, and it had been going on for more than seven months when I was blessed with some time with two dear sisters in Christ. During this last time of unemployment, we found out that my husband has ADHD. As my friends and I were talking, I realized that God had known all along when we did not know it that my husband had ADHD and that he would go through bad times employment-wise. God had required me to be a working mother not because he loved me less than stay-at-home moms, but because he was providing for our family through my steady job, which has grown in terms of pay and responsibilities over the years.

Even now, I feel that life would be easier if I didn’t have to work outside the home. Even now, I sometimes struggle with envy for at-home moms. Even now, I feel like I don’t have the hang of being a working mom and wife to someone with ADHD! But when I reflect on God’s blessings, I realize that he is amazingly gracious, and I am overwhelmed to have received such loving care from him.

Kate shares her favorite Scripture right now:

Over the past year or so, I have been drawn over and over again to Philippians, particularly the 4th chapter, verses 4-13 and verse 19. I am in the school of contentment right now, learning, in my slow and hard-headed way, to be content in whatever circumstances God places me in.

Words of Encouragement for other Christian Working Moms:

It took me more than a decade to understand that God saw the big picture of my life where I saw only details that left me dissatisfied. I wish I did not waste time being unhappy with circumstances that were meant for my good and the good of my family, but I am a broken person, as we all are, and our God is a gracious, loving, forgiving God. If you are in a situation that makes your heart heavy, know that God loves you and is working things out for good in ways you cannot imagine and may not understand for a long time.

Kate, I appreciate you being open and honest with us. I also take great comfort in how you shared God knows our long-term plans and we need to trust Him in all things.

Final Thoughts

It is so hard to wrap our mind around the fact that God has no sense of time. There isn’t a past, present, or future with God. I often can look back over my life and see many times he worked things out in ways I could never imagine. God is good all the time and in our troubled times as well.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.