November 2014 Pearls of Encouragement for CWMs

Welcome – Operation Christmas Child
Article – Mom Guilt
Final Thoughts




Newly Released Book
written by
Author Kimberly Chastain

The ABC Book

The Voices of Christian Working Moms

Welcome – Operation Christmas Child

Welcome to all the new CWMs in our community. What a wonderful time of the year is coming. Thanksgiving is a great time to teach our children to be thankful and make it a habit year round. I love Operation Christmas Child. You can find out more here: http://www.operationchristmaschild.org/. The deadline is November 17th for most places. My children love packing shoeboxes and over the years we have added different things. One thing we do is use Rubbermaid shoe boxes so children can use them later for storage. We also add a bowl and spoon to each box. Many children in the world do not have even a simple bowl. My son who is 17 seemed a little mad at me this year that I started shopping without him. Your child can include a letter and you can also track where your box goes as well. I encourage you to allow your children to pack a box. What a wonderful way to teach our children to give.

Are you looking for a fun way to teach your children about God that doesn’t require much time? Check out my new ebook entitled, “The ABCs of God’s Character”. You can find out more here: http://www.kimberlychastain.com/abcbook.htm.

Article – Mom Guilt

One of the things that seems to come with being a Mom is guilt. There are so many things we can feel guilty about on any given day. Yet, I have wondered here lately have Moms always felt guilty. I asked my 81 year old Mom the other day if she ever felt guilty as a Mom. She said she really couldn’t remember feeling guilty. She said we didn’t have much money and you just did what you had to do. I really can’t remember her stressing over our grades, if we had the latest fashions, or if we were where we needed to be spiritually.

So, does my Mom trust in God more than me? Did she take parenting less seriously? I wasn’t breastfed as a baby and she didn’t seem to be worried that I wasn’t. So, what is the difference?

One of the biggest differences I think today is social media, magazines, the internet, and other sources of information. We are being bombarded on a daily basis by a study saying you are a bad parent if you don’t do XYZ. We also continually hear how children who attend church leave when they are in college. If we don’t do things a certain way our children will turn out to be criminals.

If you are on Facebook a lot you will find out that other Moms made their children’s Halloween costume and you bought yours at the store. Or other Moms have these wonderful nutritious meals and you fed your children chicken nuggets last night. There are multiple ways to feel guilty. Years ago we had no idea what other mothers were doing in their homes, now we know. Also, women seemed to support one another more in the past. Now it seems we are trying to one up another instead of encouraging one another.

What is absent in this whole equation? God. First of all God created each of us with specific gifts and abilities and they are not all the same. Also, God created each of our children with their own interests and personalities. One size parenting strategies do not fit all, because children and parents are different.

When you are feeling guilty is it due to sin in your life that God is convicting you about or is guilt placed there by others? Is the guilt self-induced because whatever image you have of the “perfect mother” isn’t you. You know the best thing about having God in our lives is any failure we have as a parent He is more than willing to address that in our children. We don’t have to be perfect parents, because we serve a perfect God who is continually working in our lives in spite of ourselves.

Let go of the guilt and trust God with yourself and your children. Will you do me a favor? If your mother is still living ask her if she ever felt guilt as a mother and share on our Christian Working Mom group on Facebook or http://www.christianworkingmoms.blogspot.com. I would be interested if this is a new phenomenon or an age old problem.

Final Thoughts

Believe me I’m one that easily can feel guilty, but I wonder if that guilt helps me be a better parent. I really don’t think so. Guilt makes us feel defeated. As Christians we are not to feel defeated, because the battle is won.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.