September 2009 CWM Interview
Blog/Online Bible Study
CWM Coaching Tips
Welcome to all our new CWM sisters
in Christ. I live in the Southeastern United
States and we are getting drenched with rain
right now. We desperately need the rain, but
we are actually getting too much. You’re
your weather is better wherever you are. One
of the wonderful things we do in the CWM community
is virtual prayer partners. The prayer partners
share their requests by email and agree to
pray for one another. I have a CWM requesting
a prayer partner. If you are interested, please
send an email to Kimberly@kimberlychastain.com
and put prayer partner in the subject heading.
Thanks in advance for your help.
Blog/Online Bible Study
Visit the CWM blog at www.christianworkingmoms.blogspot.com
and share whether or not you are the Human
Post it Note in your family. I’m looking
forward to hearing what you have to say. There
are lots of good posts right now. I know lots
of you read the blog, but very few of you
share. Take a leap and join the conversation.
The online Bible study has a new lesson posted
about worship. You can visit the Bible study
CWM Coaching Tips
As a busy CWM do you find it
hard to spend time studying God’s Word?
Have a CWM tip emailed to you daily with one
scripture to memorize a week. To find out
more go to www.christianworkingmom.com/cwmtips.htm.
We have a special treat this
month. Thelma Wells a well-known author and
speaker shares her wonderful insights with
us. I have heard Thelma speak before and she
is encouraging, thoughtful, and humorous.
She loves the Lord. Recently, Thelma and I
talked by phone and she agreed to share her
wisdom with us now that she is a grandmother
and a great grandma as well. Over the years
I begin to realize more and more that we can
learn from our older sisters who have walked
the path before us. Enjoy the interview. To
find out more about Thelma you can visit her
website at www.thelmawells.com.
First of all Thelma can you
share with us what it was like for you when
you were a CWM:
When I was working as a Christian
Woman the challenges and strategies were similar
to those today. I had three children who were
involved in little league, dance, gymnastics,
church, choir and school work. I was a banker
by day and a banking teacher by night. My
husband was a business man and my great grandmother
lived with us. She was a blessing because
she was able to be home with the children
when we were not. However, the responsibility
of being a mother was stressful because of
time management issues. I had to either take
the children to their respective activities
or plan for them to go with reliable parents
who were taking their children to the same
place. Along with the children challenges
I cleaned, cooked, washed, ironed and did
everything to keep the family healthy and
clean. Some of the strategies which include:
• Cooking a week’s
menu of meals on one day of the week and preparing
the meals in microwavable dishes that could
be warmed for dinner every day.
• Doing the laundry every evening to
keep it under control. Getting their clothes
together for school and activities every evening
(with the kids help)
• Implementing a schedule and routine
for after school, study time, homework, incentive
time (whether or not they get to watch television
during the week, limiting their telephone
talking time, and making sure they did their
• Insisting on their help to keep up
with their socks and shoes.
• Specific bed times and get up in the
• Making sure they ate breakfast every
• And trying to get a little rest in
What were the joys and what
were the struggles of being a CWM?
The joys of being a Christian
Working Woman are similar to those who don’t
work. They are:
• Getting the household
schedule to work most of the time.
• The children staying on schedule most
of the time.
• Observing the children’s succeed
in their activities.
• Listening to them say “Thank
You” and seeing them practice courtesy
• The availability to sit down with
them every Sunday and as often as possible
during the week and eat together.
• Watching them relate to their dad
especially on Sunday as we attended church,
ate and had family time together.
• Being able to give clothes and a few
things they enjoyed.
How many children do you have
and what are their ages now?
I have three children and if
I tell you their age one of them may not speak
to me. Here’s a hint. They are all past
39 years old. Oh me, I’m in big trouble
What advice or words of encouragement
would you give to CWM’s?
The advice I would give to CWM
• Always be available
for your children. Never get too tired or
too busy for them to talk to you. If something
shocks you, don’t overreact. Be cool
so they will want to talk to you. Listen a
lot and don’t be afraid to confront
them when they are wrong and praise them when
they are right. Never discipline them when
you are angry and always let them know why
you are disciplining them. Always keep your
promises to them, their spirits are fragile.
• Find time for recreation or quiet
time with them. Quality time is better than
money or things. They want YOU not always
what you can give them.
• Make Jesus Christ the priority in
your lives. Going to church or religious services
and activities are not options yet don’t
nag them with the Bible, teach them to enjoy
reading the Bible. You read it to them when
they are young, allow them to read it to you
when they are older.
• Prayer is essential in the home. Teach
them to pray when they get up in the morning,
before meals, as they study, when they have
questions about relationships, when they are
trying out for activities, etc. Also, teach
them when things don’t work out like
they want it to that it does not mean that
God has not heard their prayer, He may be
protecting them from something or going to
give them their desire at a later date.
• Teach them to be nice to everybody
but pick their friends. Always befriend someone
who is doing the right things all the time.
Sometimes the truth is that they may not have
friends all the time because often when you
do right you are lonely, but stand for right
even if it means you stand by yourself. And,
teach them to respect their teachers, elders
and authority figures.
What is your favorite Bible
Currently, my favorite verses
are Ephesians 6:10-18, “10Finally, be
strong in the Lord and in his mighty power.
11Put on the full armor of God so that you
can take your stand against the devil's schemes.
12For our struggle is not against flesh and
blood, but against the rulers, against the
authorities, against the powers of this dark
world and against the spiritual forces of
evil in the heavenly realms. 13Therefore put
on the full armor of God, so that when the
day of evil comes, you may be able to stand
your ground, and after you have done everything,
to stand. 14Stand firm then, with the belt
of truth buckled around your waist, with the
breastplate of righteousness in place, 15and
with your feet fitted with the readiness that
comes from the gospel of peace. 16In addition
to all this, take up the shield of faith,
with which you can extinguish all the flaming
arrows of the evil one. 17Take the helmet
of salvation and the sword of the Spirit,
which is the word of God. 18And pray in the
Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of
prayers and requests. With this in mind, be
alert and always keep on praying for all the
How do you think CWMs could
support one another more?
I believe CWM’s can support
each other more by:
God is teaching me how to be a
responsible grandmother to my nine grandchildren
and three great grandchildren. These responsibilities
Do you have one of your books
in particular you would recommend for CWMs?
I would recommend my latest
book, Don’t Give In – God Wants
You To Win! because it gives strategies for
fighting the good fight of faith and winning
the battle over all the obstacles and stresses
Anything else you would like
Everything I’ve talked
about is soaked and saturated with LOVE. When
you love your children you want the best for
them. It’s not always easy but it is
worth it. My great grandmother wisely said,
“When your children are little they
are on your lap. But when they get older they
are on your heart! Children are a lifetime
commitment. Let them trust you while you love
them. That’s what Jesus would do!
Thelma, thanks so much for your
many words of wisdom and encouragement. Your
children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren
have a wonderful treasure in you. You are
truly a Godly woman.
Our society has become more
and more isolated. It is important to be involved
in the lives of children in our church and
neighborhood. May we share the love of Jesus
with all those around us.
Till next time,
Kimberly M. Chastain
Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT
is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed
Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the
author of The Voices of Christian Working
Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study.
To find out how to receive coaching tips by
email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm.
To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com.
For a free, initial coaching session send
an email to email@example.com.